(08-26-2014, 10:17 AM)TheChosenOne Wrote: [ -> ] (08-25-2014, 08:27 PM)lokko Wrote: [ -> ]I hope base has something along the lines of family hurting your feelings about being successful or doing something in my life to achieve a financial well being. What I mean is anytime I try to give to my family for the better of all of us they bring me down by saying what have you ever done to achieve, how much money have you made, to prove to us your sayings are worthwhile. All they care about is, if you have money your words are valuable, they have lost touch with their emotional side, caring side, all they can think of is money. So how would base help in this regard Shannon?
Also, realize that this is a common denominator of successful people in any business (excluding multi-generational/wealthy families) and that you're right on track for success (although the process is sometimes emotionally painful)
BASE, like BAMM 2.0, causes you to become self sufficient and self validating. Therefore, you no longer need validation from, nor approval of, family or anyone else to succeed. At no time is it reasonable for your feelings to be hurt by the response of anyone else to your efforts to becoming successful; their responses do not matter emotionally. They are either helpful, neutral or harmful, and if they are not helpful, then you have no need to pay them heed.
My family spent a considerable amount of time and effort in the beginning trying to convince me that I was useless, helpless, worthless, incapable, yada yada yada. You can respond to that in two ways: "I believe you," or "I'm going to prove you wrong." Until I chose the latter instead of the former, I was a failure, and I expressed myself as being everything they told me I was: useless, worthless, helpless, incapable, etc. But the minute I realized they were full of it, and I adopted the latter point of view, they started REALLY attacking me... trying to keep me down. And I started REALLY kicking ass, trying to prove them wrong.
Now, I am respected by everyone in my family because I have proved them wrong, even though I am not a millionaire yet. Now they admire me, show me respect, treat me with consideration. But they needed proof first. I had to show them that they were wrong with what I did, and what results I achieved through what I did.
At one time, I was bent on "revenge". I thought I was going to rub someone's nose in it when I became a millionaire, and then they'd see! But long ago, that faded,because I simply don't care what "they" think anymore. If they want to tell me I can't, well, sucks to be them, 'cause I'm going to succeed regardless. My best friend, to this day, adamantly refuses to believe that subliminals actually work, and he believes I'm going to fail because of it. Unfortunately for him... they do work, and I have no intentions of failing. At anything I focus myself on.
It used to hurt my feelings when people would tell me I could not, because I needed their validation and I needed them to believe in me because I did not. Now, I am self validating and I believe in me regardless of what anyone else says, does or thinks about what I choose to do. So when people show up and tell me I can't, etc.... I just smile and keep on making progress towards my ever growing and inevitable success.
It's in there.