Subliminal Talk

Stage 1 - Day 28,

I went to the cool rooftop bar after dinner with my.. mom!

Yes. That's right.

This was a first and I really did not give much thought to it since I was very much in the moment.

I'm very inspired recently and a big part of being able to express my excitement for life is being in the moment.

It's actually one of the biggest things to be able to be in the moment and be relaxed (but still focused) in social pressured situations.

So anyways.. on to what happened:

I felt extremely comfortable when came up to the bar. We talked and had fun, I totally forgot that my mom had this side to her.
At some point I went up to order a non-alcoholic drink. When I received it, it looked like a really girly drink in a girly glass. Yay!

As fun I thought it was, I went over to two girls and placed it on the table to take a picture of it.

me: just going to take a picture of it..
blonde: what is it?
me: yeah it's interesting right.. take a guess!
blonde: I don't know..
me: just take shot
blonde: is it strong?
me: strawberry?
blonde: (repeat)
me: no it's actually non-alcoholic.. it's carrot..

me looking down at the drink "it's such an interesting drink.. yeah.." then I look at her and introduce myself

She gives a handshake like she's the queen and that it would be so normal to kiss her hand there.

me: you are russian.
her: yes.

I turn to the Asian girl and introduce, she shook hand passively.

me: so what's up, how's your night?
them: it's good (in a booooring way)

They've had a few guys hit on them earlier but it seems like they were boring.

them: who are you here with?
me: (looking away and laughing to myself then back to piercing eye-contact) I'm actually here with my mom..

The Asian was like, "YOUR MOM!?" really big eyes and the blonde were also very intrigued.

them: where is she?!

I pointed out where she was sitting

me: she's really sweet and nice

they still tried to look for her.

asian: how old are you? I know it's a personal question but.. how old are you?
me: no it's totally okay but first you have to guess
(at this point the blonde seemed a bit jealous)
asian: I don't know
me: just take a shot.. whatever!
asian: 20
me: and what do you think?
blonde: 22
me: that's right!

girls absorbs the information and seemed intrigued and a bit excited

me: you can join us! (I did not know what I was doing there but something in me told me to make it a different and fun night for both these girls and my mom)
they don't know what to say
me: well.. think about it
them: yeah we'll think about it

As I left and on my way back to my mom, girls were looking at me.

I talk a bit with my mom. The two girls kept looking over. 5 minutes later the Blonde walks straight over to us through the empty dance-floor (fucking bold!)

blonde: your son is very cute…

I felt like the daughter with her mother that gets hit on by a guy on the streets. Another first.

she just stood and we talked a bit about why she's here and why we were here

me: take a seat and join us with your friend
blonde: nono I was just going to the bar..
me: hm
blonde: have a good evening

I notice all kind of girls looking over now.

The blonde and asian were still looking over from time to time.

In my head I was thinking that it was a big sign of interest and also it was extremely bold.

She was a bit fat which didn't speak much to my desire but she was pretty (they both were) and BOLD, which actually turned me on more than her physical beauty really.

That's an improvement of what I've been viewing girls lately. The value for me lies not in her physical beauty but in the qualities she can show me.

I'm not doing what needs to be done to get laid though, which is just a limitation of being free.
Being free by having no worries and not thinking about time. Being free to explore and create fun situations. Being free to do whatever your GUT REALLY tells you to do so you'll get unforgettable memories…

I think you've mistaken my point.

It's not about agreeing. It's more about listening.

People who don't listen cannot connect with others and there's a lot of people who don't listen. It takes time and effort to be present with a person.

It's not a necessary thing, so why should these people try? These people never experience life deeply.

There's no pain in it.. only disappointment in the person and in myself when I sense that my sense of self got a crack again.

"We just want to be heard"
"We just want to connect"

That's what we all really want. Now having made the mistakes, I speak only passionately now about these things when I feel it fits in the interaction.

Quote:Exactly. So wouldn't it be better to just leave the BS alone instead of leaving your core self alone when BS rears it's ugly head?

I don't see what you mean.. I've never said I'm holding my core self back.

I'm actually amplifying my core self by being more careful of who and when to speak about my ideas...

If it's family it is much harder to be indifferent to their opinion if I speak about it.
People that you have respect for, that shoots you down when you open up.. now these are the people you should not speak about such a personal matter.

The thing is that when you speak about this to people you do not know, it is easier because they don't have a perceived identity of who you are.

(I feel like repeating myself)

Hope you got my point...

I get why you opt not to be open, but all I'm saying is you shouldn't care. Can you really respect someone who won't respect your opinions for example? I know I can't.

I'm not saying you waste your time with people who don't listen either, what I'm getting at is you should be open, thus making it easy to identify people who do and people who do not listen. Disassociate with those who will waste your time and be ignorant to what you are passionate about, and spend time with those who get it. Build a cult following, in a manner of speaking.

Last day in Beijing. Took the breathe away from a masseuse. She told me "I will remember you". Bought 3 baby turtles. Got some sushi. Met a girl on subway on my way to a rooftop bar and we went together. Met different cool guys and a few girls. End up meeting 4 very cool east-european people. 2 cool guys and 2 stunning girls. Romanian, Ukrainian, Russian. One who had played the national rugby-team for 4 years but have now lived in Beijing for 20 years. Great with girls.

Hey LyonMonkey ! I love your journal man. You are my example, I want to get my confidence to the next level and be able to do what you can do man. I am an asian guy like you who want to have a crazy life !!

And I am a good looking guy like you ! Hopefully we are not this kind of creepy asian guy ! ahah if only i started these subliminal things at your age !

I have a question , when you are seeing a beautiful girl are you feeling like you can get her if you want , or have the mindset of "i dont know" but i will try ?

Wheres your next destination now that you've gone through Beijing?

Thanks

Fonzy

I've decided to write my journals in another way.. a more sexy way. It'll be more like speaking to a cool audience but at the same time also being like a story...

STAGE 1 - DAY 35 - New perspectives

Man, it's gooooooood to be back..

The people here are so friendly and chill. Reminds me of my workouts after a break from it.

But not today.. today I fcking went to the gym and started my 12 week program like a champ, and got both of my biceps, lateral and shoulders worn out.. like a sexy beast.

You too?

:-)

sexiness comes from consistent inspired actions of belieeeeeving in yourself, beast.

and I'm still writing with both of my manly, sexy hands.. that's how awesome I am.

Okay, lets get into the changes I've noticed:
I've gone 3 days too many with Stage 1 and will start Stage 2 tonight.

Socializing has increased, naturally after starting AM, mostly with guys. After my vacation in China, my perspective has once again broadened.

Love that shit, like I love the hilarious, random jokes in Family Guy.

Or maybe just because it is a cool proof of that our limitation is self-created, mostly based on fear and many times unconscious.

Not aware of what's holding you back.

Like the last puzzle piece that has a wrong shape.

Traveling and trying new habits is good for the mind. It gets you going. It gets you out of your everyday tasks and places.

Most Chinese girls were soooo nicely shaped. Soft model legs and nice asses.
Most Scandinavian girls are physically hot but less feminine.. and wider legs.

I've decided to be a more social guy overall. Not all about women but also guys.

- Still studying a lot, school & women & nutrition, for new knowledge and for practical use

- Reading out loud for voice training

- Working out consistently again with a 12 week program

- Started to Meditate again after a break

It is like every time I experience
something different and out of the box thinking
I become more centered and
gets to know myself better and what I want.

It has actually been scary for me
because I see my life situation
in a 3rd perspective and..
it's not what I've always "thought"..

I thought I had friends I could count on
not just someone you know..
I thought my friends didn't judge me
for me not trying to fit in..

I guess I was afraid but now I see..
that those beliefs were actually
the reasons, that held me back
from my extraordinary potential

To live a life that has meaning
for myself..
and only myself.

James

(08-14-2013, 10:47 AM)Frenchmagnet Wrote: [ -> ]Hey LyonMonkey ! I love your journal man. You are my example, I want to get my confidence to the next level and be able to do what you can do man. I am an asian guy like you who want to have a crazy life !!

And I am a good looking guy like you ! Hopefully we are not this kind of creepy asian guy ! ahah if only i started these subliminal things at your age !

l'inspiration formidable Frenchmagnet!

I like the enthusiasm written all over your words dude. It makes me nostalgic.

Creepy asian guy? Fvck that shit. I've been called creepy before but the key is how you react. (then also realize AFTER if the girl was really creeped out and learn from the mistake)

I'm sexy, delicious, awesome.. the thought "creepy asian guy" doesn't exist in my reality.

and it definitely shouldn't be in yours too.
get it out of your vocabulary.. NOW!

Your welcome.

Quote:I have a question , when you are seeing a beautiful girl are you feeling like you can get her if you want , or have the mindset of "i dont know" but i will try ?

There's no trying. I'm the BOSS, I don't try to "get" her. She's lucky if she gets to experience this charming man.

Lately I had a shift where I focus on socializing rather than the girl.

You know what happens then?

BOOM you suddenly find yourself talking to a girl that's beautiful and YOU DECIDE if you want to take it further.

But..

first you gotta develop a natural sense of flirting with women

how?

start teasing them lightly and have fun doing it.

Quote:Wheres your next destination now that you've gone through Beijing?

Thanks

Fonzy

Where's a great place to go? :-)

Brasil, or somewhere that has great nightlife i'm sure you'll enjoy that.

Thanks

Fonzy

I've heard a lot good about Brazil and their famous carnival.

Though I'm thinking of the U.S. next summer to visit a cousin in Washington. Then hit Las Vegas while I'm there. Should be fun.


STAGE 2 - DAY 1 - The dreams, the goals, the priiiiiize


Two things:

1. I had an interesting moment when I was studying at a café and a guy was going around my back to close the window that I was sitting in front.

I was listening to the trickling stream.
Took the earbud off and looked at him,
emanating "what are you up to" in a very strong way.

It was HIGH tension and
the 3 girls sitting nearby stopped talking and
I could sense that they watched with their eyes wide open.

He wasn't going to close the window but
to get past it to get some newspaper and
it was apparently an old guy.

The interesting thing was the enormous
amount of confidence in my direction of my attention.
It was very intense but I was so comfortable and relaxed with it.


2. I've noticed this a lot lately but girls have been staring in my eyes for
at least 3 seconds every time I catch one looking.

Feeling like I do not need a woman..
like I do not need her attention and
I do not need to look at her.


You know the good, inspiring feeling of
something big and awesome is going to happen..
you kinda just KNOW it's going to happen?

That's exactly what I'm feeling lately.

A lifestyle makeover to the better
for good..

Everything is aligning me to do so..
now it's just up to me
to take the necessary actions
to cultivate this
charming..
sexy..
challenging..
and fun personality..

that I have..
and I know
that you also have
you charmingly
handsome man

I will soon begin a
30 day challenge of
meeting and flirting with women..
one similar to the one I failed at while in China.

It's gonna be a fvcking awesome!



Go get em beast!

- James

Whaaaatsssss upppp my man.

Having an awesome Sunday you charming,
smart, ridiculously good-looking beast?

But enough about me.

3 things

1. Women love to hit guys

2. Never let anyone tell you that
you are not awesome.

Not even yourself.

You are awesome, just as you are
right now! Now keep being awesome and
never, ever forget it.

3. Have been organizing a learning event
about seduction for The Ars Amorata..

yes, we are looking for few passionate people
to join and be part of the experience.

So if you know any person
that lives in Copenhagen
who wants to know more about
how to be a woman's fantasy?

Let me know.

STAGE 2 - DAY 2 - Girls hitting me, girls on each arm


I went out yesterday night. It was my first night out since I came home. Met up with two buddies that have been out every Thursday, Friday and Saturday night.

Venue: fun bar/club - Australian style.

I'm not gonna go into details about the interactions but what I will do is write how I interpreted the ridicules fun interactions.

Basically you know that I've gone from approaching the hottest girls only to socializing kind of mindset.
One thing it does is, it makes you more aware of peoples personalities because you have lots of people you can compare to each other.

So..

I was very social..
words, creativity & fun
just vomited out of me

(I was very high energy so
it wasn't very sexual but
there was a lot of touching)

Ugly girls, pretty girls,
fat girls, guys..
I spoke to all kinds..

The girls that got comfortable
with me and wasn't waiting
for some guy arriving or
got cock-blocked by their
boring jealous guys..

all fvcking hit me..

(*smirks* while realizing again how
charmingly exciting my vibe is)

1 Had a very pretty blonde hit me like
I.. can't find the right simile here
but you know when a girl is like
ohh my god.. and hits you..
yeah.. awesome stuff..

well the whole room turned
their head which made it
even funnier..

my buddy couldn't handle
her equally beautiful friend
so eventually she wanted to
have a drink and dragged
the girl I was talking to with her

"don't go!"

her friend was like "ok"

they stopped for a while
but I did not lead them into
what they wanted besides
what they really wanted.

The blonde faced me fully
before leaving and I said
something like:

me: give me your number
her: no.. I don't even know you
me: ok then stay here and get to know me
her: I can't.. we are going to get a drink
me: okay.. give your number and I'll
text you to meet somewhere.
her: no (something)

2. Later I was standing by myself
just stood there.. realizing
how.. awesome and charming
I was/am.

These two bit chubby girls which
I've had interacted with earlier
saw me and walked over to me.

The blonde had a very pretty face and
the brunette seemed like in her late 20's.

They liked me and they were comfortable with me.

We talked for a bit then
I took a seat in the middle
of the leather bench.

I could feel the blonde come closer but was
pinging her friend if it was ok if she sat
down beside me.

Eventually she just did
and the brunette joined
on my right side.

It was hard to give
both of them attention..
but my friend eventually came
and he entertained the blonde
for as long as he could

I interrupted since I was totally
enjoying the moment and
was having a lot of fun

So I put my arms around their
shoulders on both of my sides
looking totally like a pimp..

(realizing once again how charmingly awesome I am)

they put their heads
close to me..
teased them a bit..
brunette hits me..

(realizing again how fvcking good of
an understanding I have on social dynamics)

the brunette wanted me to do
things for/to her but I didn't want to..
and eventually she thought I wasn't
sexually interested in her and the
blonde was the follower of
them two so they left..

All in all, it was a funtastic night.

Another funny thing was that the girls who liked me most were the girls I payed less attention to in the beginning. I could also sense they weren't initially interested. As I got the friend laughing or intrigued, they eventually somehow got my attention by interfering. These were also mostly the girls that was the leader in their group.

NOTE TO SELF: If I wanted to make something happen, I had to lead more creatively/spontaneously when I see that the girls are having a blast with me.
Also working on sexual intent in the right moments of windows of opportunity. Also in general as looking more on girls lips and visualizing sex with her in the moment.
Also when I know you are the fvcking man - after I've hooked them, I should just lay back and let them qualify themselves

I've changed in my view on women and people in general. I've also become much more in the moment in all kinds of situations, which makes my presence so much stronger and the interactions I have so much more interesting and real.

My creativity and non-logical side has developed a lot since China. I think mainly it is because of the fvcking funny & interesting improv classes I took.

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Started doing intermittent fasting today.

lots of water ----> sleep ----> some more h2o ---> write down and plan my following week ---> and some more water ---> study chinese history and language ---> dinner and the end of my 24 hour fasting.

As you probably have noticed, I'm writing in an unorthodox way. It is because it is easier and much more interesting to read. Also it is how I vision as a great way to read a text about this subject.

I'm using way too much time on writing these journal posts. So in the future, it'll be much shorter, precise and mostly about the most interesting things and changes I've experienced or noticed.

Keep rocking.
Beast.

- JL

Whaats up.
How's it hanging?

What's that sexy smell..
did you put on your cologne today?

A break-through mentality I've pondered over since I came back from China

Why do you feel fvcking good when you win a challenge?

Why are there some people who are so serious about life is so hard?

You make yourself the victim.

The mindset I have meditated over after my trip to China:

When something is so hard .. or stupid that it's ridiculous fun in the awesome way.

When something is so ego-attacking that I go against it with an attitude of, "yeah.. come on.. I am so fvcking ready." although I have no idea of what could happen.

When something is so delicious.. or enlightening that I think "fvck _I_ am so good at realizing it."

In short: Blind faith ONLY in one's own incredible potential.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RubBzkZzpUA

Use it if you aren't already.


STAGE 2 - DAY 4 - A higher level of uncomfortable & moving closer to central again


Haven't been out of the house in 2 days
because of my first time intermittent fasting.

When I had prepared my steak and
it was time to eat again
I had my life's so-far greatest
mouth
smell
feeling
orgasm..

Anyways I met up with my buddy, who I had lived with before to discuss
the apartment he had reserved from some girl he had met the other night at a club.

On my way to meet him I felt unease. Met a former school-pal on the bus and talked briefly.
My new "low" of being uncomfortable has risen since I was able to say what I wanted and still not get out of balance but with a sense of not being free which leads to awkward/strange moments but I was fine with it.

There was a douchebag talking loud on the phone on the bus. A bit Later on the streets, very coincidentally, while I was walking with my buddy, he was walking towards me in the crowd, like he's owning the whole street, pushing me with his shoulders, even as I turned a bit to not bump into him.

My first reaction was, fvck him and it annoyed me the more I thought about it. My interaction with my friend got disturbed by it.

I replayed the scenario in my head and thought about why I was feeling so annoyed.

Then after asking questions to myself, I saw it from a higher consciousness, I decided that it was great what he did. It was a test from the Universe.

I just had to be more badass and if a confrontation would happen, I would be so ready.
The annoying thing was that I didn't do anything about it and let it get to me.

So I decided to think that he was just the way he was. Nothing personal but a test from the universe to see if I could still be awesome even if some douche stepped on my toes.

It led to me being more lower energy throughout the day. I was still able to say and do things I wanted that was in congruence with the person I aspire to be, which is a mix with the "higher level of uncomfortable".

People were given me less attention than they usually do but when I did use my presence to do & say what I wanted, it turned out as I wanted.

And also people could feel my presence but it was more intimidating than what I usually exude.

Mindset: "What?! I own where I go. I have an intense energy molding in me"

Alright.
I'm out.
Keep rocking.

- JL

(08-20-2013, 03:28 PM)LionMonkey Wrote: [ -> ]Mindset: "What?! I own where I go. I have an intense energy molding in me"

Alright.
I'm out.
Keep rocking.

- JL

That's an amazing mindset to have but don't be complacent keep on working towards your passion to increase your sense of value. Appreciate all these updates on your journey man. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T50NzcOss78

Thanks

Fonzy

Glad you can use some of it. That's what I hope I can give.

Here's a short update from today.


STAGE 2 - DAY 5 - Becoming normal to talk to people


Lately I'm very busy catching up with my studies and going through my 12 week program for an Adonis body.

Used 2k (DKR) and a lot of time on researching on nutrition supplements.. but I'm glad it's handled now. I'm gonna be a BEAST.

I see beautiful women everywhere but they do not affect me emotionally anymore as they sometimes before in my life used to.

- My flame has grown dull and it is not automatic anymore. I have to ignite it from my actions.
- I've begun to speak with a tone with more confidence as my default tone. (that's what I get for training my voice consistently)
- Women give me these intense eye-contact lasting at least 3 seconds.
- Not pre-judging women on their physical appearance. (which in turn gives me freedom to talk to whomever)
- More comfortable talking to people I do not know - ex. today I asked a girl about the wifi-password in the library. She took her earbuds off and wanted to talk to me.

I felt very fine with it, just friendly small-talk and I could surely have taken it in a direction of adventure but I'm so busy with my studies lately.

Focus now:
* How can I incorporate having women in my life while going through my busy days?

Strategy plan:
Do whatever I am doing but ON THE WAY to what I am doing, DON'T THINK TWICE about my destination and START NOTICE which lucky cute girls could get the opportunity to join my world.

Start with at least 1 woman every day, if I want to approach more that's even fine.

Chit-chat, self-amusement, INVITE.

I can feel a harem is building.

That's it.
I'm out.
Stay awesome.
- JL