01-31-2018, 01:34 PM
Hmmm. As I already have a sex life with multiple partners (all of whom seduced me) that is supplemented in moderation (not derailed) by masturbation (alone or with said partners), it sounds like 3.1 may be my ceiling when I return to DMSI after ending my SE 5.5G run.
I fully respect Shannon's choices and his reasons for taking these steps in 3.2, but a zero-tolerance policy on specific (legal) sex acts is, sadly, a bridge too far for me. I've been listening to DMSI to increase my sexiness, not to join nofap or restrict which sexual acts I'm allowed to perform with or alongside safe and willing partners. I personally find mutual masturbation useful (and fairly integral) during foreplay and masturbation of oneself useful when with partners who are prone to exhaustion, ache, and slow recovery or who have lower libidos, and I prefer to keep all of my options on the tabl... err... bed. I'd also rather not feel inclined to fake or refuse phone sex, sexting, etc with a partner who proposes it when physical proximity precludes other options.
Others may posit that this type of activity (mutual/alongside partners) falls within DMSI's scope of usage (I would reconsider if it did), however, Shannon stated here that he's going "100% airtight" and not "distinguish[ing] between uses" regarding masturbation, porn, etc. He reaffirmed that stance here. Unless further elaboration on "100%" corrects a misinterpretation on my part, I'll interpret this as stated.
Since there's not much use for 3.1 feedback after 3.2's release (and I'm still running SE now), my public DMSI feedback will likely go no further.
I fully respect Shannon's choices and his reasons for taking these steps in 3.2, but a zero-tolerance policy on specific (legal) sex acts is, sadly, a bridge too far for me. I've been listening to DMSI to increase my sexiness, not to join nofap or restrict which sexual acts I'm allowed to perform with or alongside safe and willing partners. I personally find mutual masturbation useful (and fairly integral) during foreplay and masturbation of oneself useful when with partners who are prone to exhaustion, ache, and slow recovery or who have lower libidos, and I prefer to keep all of my options on the tabl... err... bed. I'd also rather not feel inclined to fake or refuse phone sex, sexting, etc with a partner who proposes it when physical proximity precludes other options.
Others may posit that this type of activity (mutual/alongside partners) falls within DMSI's scope of usage (I would reconsider if it did), however, Shannon stated here that he's going "100% airtight" and not "distinguish[ing] between uses" regarding masturbation, porn, etc. He reaffirmed that stance here. Unless further elaboration on "100%" corrects a misinterpretation on my part, I'll interpret this as stated.
Since there's not much use for 3.1 feedback after 3.2's release (and I'm still running SE now), my public DMSI feedback will likely go no further.
