06-26-2011, 09:04 AM
I need to vent here and maybe get some opinions on something. Last night I got stuck between some serious drama between my best friend and his girlfriend. She's got an alcohol problem which she refuses to acknowledge and my friend has tried everything. We were at a party and she was drunk and decided to make out with another guy there. Their relationship has been pretty rocky and truth be told I think she was just looking for a way out and the alcohol was convenient. She probably didn't want to face him sober and she used the alcohol as a way to hide behind herself. She told him to his face that she may or may not have made out with another guy at the party. She definitely did though, the worst part is I know the guy and the dude knew that she was in a relationship. I hate alcohol, it brings out the dark side in people sometimes and causes too many problems.
My friend was destroyed last night, it's one thing to have a girl breakup with you, but it's a whole different story when she tells you to your face that she cheated on you. I think the problem was my friend was more invested in her than she was in him and he told me that she made him happy. I knew she was going to break up, but I'm so disappointed that she couldn't handle this situation like a grown adult.
I like having both sides of the story and I'm not a guy that jumps to one side or badmouths somebody just to make them feel better. The fact is what she did is inexcusable, but at the same time my best friend was using her as a crutch for his happiness and came across as very needy. So I'm stuck right in the middle now which sucks, because I was also friends with his girlfriend.
I'm going to lay low for a while and see how things pan out. The one thing that I can't get out of my mind is how my friend was telling me that she was always distant and he felt like she used him at times. I don't know if that's his perception of this situation and he's just intensely needy or if she was really that much of a bitch. I'm not justifying her behavior but lets be honest, nice guys in today's society get chewed up and spat out, if you are needy with a girl it's over and nobody tells you that from the beginning. Nobody tells you these unwritten rules of relationships and a lot of what you are told is just a lie.
As for me I've been a loner most my life, I've made it on my own plenty of times and I've learned that a girl doesn't fix your problems. I just wish my friend could have made the relationship work or broke it off when it got bad, but he was dependent on it like a drug to make him happy and unfortunately I saw it coming.
My friend was destroyed last night, it's one thing to have a girl breakup with you, but it's a whole different story when she tells you to your face that she cheated on you. I think the problem was my friend was more invested in her than she was in him and he told me that she made him happy. I knew she was going to break up, but I'm so disappointed that she couldn't handle this situation like a grown adult.
I like having both sides of the story and I'm not a guy that jumps to one side or badmouths somebody just to make them feel better. The fact is what she did is inexcusable, but at the same time my best friend was using her as a crutch for his happiness and came across as very needy. So I'm stuck right in the middle now which sucks, because I was also friends with his girlfriend.
I'm going to lay low for a while and see how things pan out. The one thing that I can't get out of my mind is how my friend was telling me that she was always distant and he felt like she used him at times. I don't know if that's his perception of this situation and he's just intensely needy or if she was really that much of a bitch. I'm not justifying her behavior but lets be honest, nice guys in today's society get chewed up and spat out, if you are needy with a girl it's over and nobody tells you that from the beginning. Nobody tells you these unwritten rules of relationships and a lot of what you are told is just a lie.
As for me I've been a loner most my life, I've made it on my own plenty of times and I've learned that a girl doesn't fix your problems. I just wish my friend could have made the relationship work or broke it off when it got bad, but he was dependent on it like a drug to make him happy and unfortunately I saw it coming.