08-02-2015, 06:53 AM
CatMan we are quite close in our SM3 runs and have similarities in our story of being young and not having much of the experience. First of all I will say that while I still don't get results I want, I definitely notice the improvements and people around me does to. In last few months I had more dates than i last 5 years and it is moving into a good direction (baby steps, you still have to learn a lot without subs, you need experience). Now about girls, I noticed that I have to increase the quality of girls I go after because simply they are either not interesting to me or simply doesn't click with me anymore. I simply outgrew them. So this might be a reason why you struggle with girls from the past.
Now about hours while you try to listen for 20h a day, I do ~12h-14h and spend a lot of time not in home. Even if it is a time with a friend somewhere in cafe I believe it still presents me opportunities to meet girls and overall improve my social abilities.
Also I had an improvement plan. First I wanted to learn how to text with girls ( pretty much haven't done that for 2 years before, so was totally out ;/) (bless the tinder here). Second to go and get as many dates as possible (not in pick up style, but overall through social interactions and so on), even if you don't see yourself dating that girl, as long as she is 7+ go and invite her out, you will learn something from it. Third would be to learn how to escalate and bed her (still have a hard time figuring action plan for getting her to bed, these days either she wants to date me or is not interested and I overpush). Other things I did was improve my style, find some friends who are good and popular with girls, create a life goal for myself and now I am working on raising my social status and fixing and improving my facebook profile, because I noticed that it does attract a great flow of girls if you manage it well. Basically small attention to details and practice is still the key here.
Most likely I will still do immediate run of SM3 again after finishing it, so don't worry if you don't get everything you want immediately.
Now about hours while you try to listen for 20h a day, I do ~12h-14h and spend a lot of time not in home. Even if it is a time with a friend somewhere in cafe I believe it still presents me opportunities to meet girls and overall improve my social abilities.
Also I had an improvement plan. First I wanted to learn how to text with girls ( pretty much haven't done that for 2 years before, so was totally out ;/) (bless the tinder here). Second to go and get as many dates as possible (not in pick up style, but overall through social interactions and so on), even if you don't see yourself dating that girl, as long as she is 7+ go and invite her out, you will learn something from it. Third would be to learn how to escalate and bed her (still have a hard time figuring action plan for getting her to bed, these days either she wants to date me or is not interested and I overpush). Other things I did was improve my style, find some friends who are good and popular with girls, create a life goal for myself and now I am working on raising my social status and fixing and improving my facebook profile, because I noticed that it does attract a great flow of girls if you manage it well. Basically small attention to details and practice is still the key here.
Most likely I will still do immediate run of SM3 again after finishing it, so don't worry if you don't get everything you want immediately.
