09-29-2020, 02:35 PM
(09-28-2020, 06:21 PM)RTBoss Wrote:(09-28-2020, 03:03 PM)ncbeareatingman Wrote: Hows LTU6 going for you and your wife RT?
Better for me, than her. She's pretty resistant, in the first place. Perhaps I shouldn't even be exposing her, since she isn't able to be consistent. Her work schedule doesn't allow her to listen according to the model recommendations.
I'm enjoying DRS, emotional healing, and what seems to be anger management. Tonight, for instance, the kids had my wife riled up beyond her usual. I handled it all so calmly, she even berated me for not being angry "FOR" her. So then I just reminded her about my old self - "Would you prefer that? The guy who loses his cool and yells at you and/or the kids?"
Nope.
Me:
Right friggin on Man~! that is sooo dang awesome. I mean it. what therapist can do this for us...ya know? unless you've got merlin with a wizard wand or the Wizard of Oz.... in a phrases.."it aint happening"...I mean talking things out is one thing, clearing them out is a whole 'nother world!!
brilliant move on your part.... nothing like a linear,grounded statement to get another to really think about it all. perspective!! check mate!!
I Once had a life coach named John Lovette( or Lovitte) outta san antonio Tx, that used to teach " Non defensive listening",he has a book out some where called "whose listening anyway?" and another one" whose telling the truth,anyway?" most excellent
His techniques were astounding,very simple and very effective including mirroring back to the other person 'their stuff" and as a result they had no choice but to 'own it',but again it wasnt done in a defensive way,it was non defensive reflection...kinda like DRS verbally ha! they got to 'get clear' on thus and such,opportunity to grow ,if they so would choose to do so, and at the very least they'd shut the hell up.... and the other person,got 'peace'. A win win!! Ha!
Whose money does this belong to Joey, Ghandalf or Ceasar? give to ceasar what is caesar and giveto ghandalf what is ghandalf!" - non defensive listening and respone. ya might say its "alkaline living"over "acidic" !!
LTU6 is a muther Man,I can hardly wait til we see it in 6G,good grief,charlie brown!! ha!
Sherlock-your're an amazing fellow,Watson.Though You,yourself,not luminescent, you're an amazing conductor of Light"/"Loving You ,Heals Me"-an-NDE'er.""Blessed are those who can give without remembering and take without forgetting."-Trust is abouve ALL else!!"Money,does NOT change people,it ONLY reveals them!"
