07-11-2016, 05:11 AM
(07-11-2016, 04:50 AM)Shannon Wrote:(07-11-2016, 04:32 AM)SargeMaximus Wrote:(07-11-2016, 04:12 AM)Shannon Wrote: 1. Self forgiveness, and forgiveness of others, let go of the past and move on from it
This one is aimed at getting rid of any hate, anger, grudges, etc. you may have that is aimed at a particular gender in general, which would otherwise prevent you from achieving maximum possible success with the program.
Is this such a good idea Shannon? I'm all for forgiveness, but if someone has wronged you and you forgive them without them making it up to you, you are essentially becoming a door mat are you not?
Not to mention it's kind of like putting their needs before your own.
The idea is that since anger, hate and grudges are self destructive, you get yourself to the point that you can let go of them and move on with your life.
It's not intended to be "forgive, lay down and repeat getting mistreated" BS. It's not telling you to keep doing the same thing or let people walk on you. It's telling you, "Here is a blockage for achieving the goals of this program, let's do what you need to do to get past it and enjoy success."
In other words, you can do what you like, but if the program is going to succeed in achieving it's goals, you need to let go of the things that caused the blockages and take down the walls that you've built that are going to prevent success in achieving the goals of the program.
If holding a grudge, being angry at others or hating others is more important to you than achieving the goals of the program, definitely don't use it.
Anger and hate are self destructive. They are also self limiting. They drain energy unnecessarily, limit you unnecessarily and act like acid for your emotions. Some people are addicted to them because they feel "justified" feeling them. You can be "justified" all day long, but justified doesn't change the limitations, drain and corrosive effects they have on YOU, while they do NOTHING to the people you are angry with or hate.
Growing past letting yourself be used or taken advantage of is not prevented by the programming. It just frees you to succeed where you would not otherwise have been able to. Anyone with common sense is going to learn how not to let people treat them, even if they're not holding a grudge, anger or hate.
It's a very clever trap. A lot of people never escape it.
