01-16-2019, 06:27 PM
(This post was last modified: 01-16-2019, 06:49 PM by rayrocanaldo.)
(01-16-2019, 04:57 PM)Shannon Wrote:(01-16-2019, 04:44 PM)rayrocanaldo Wrote:(01-16-2019, 02:16 PM)Shannon Wrote:(01-16-2019, 01:46 PM)rayrocanaldo Wrote:(01-16-2019, 11:50 AM)Shannon Wrote: If you were to use that wording - "My goal is to have the best possible relationship with X." - then you are not specifying what type of relationship; only that it be the best it can be.How can people rape, kill, injure, wound, steal from, hurt( physically), destroy, make sick, enslave, betray, gossip about, etc...people and yet be alive and well. The person has interfered with their victim's will by killing, enslaving, injuring, etc...them. They did in a very real way. Its realer than a thought. A thought is only as real as it is manifested.
So if X has no romantic or sexual feelings for you, such a request would result in a great friendship, most likely. You are leaving the type of relationship up to X and the universe. It doesn't interfere with that person's free will or life or karma, because the best possible relationship is going to fit whatever "is" for that person and for you. There is no influencing of or taking away freedom of will or freedom of choice.
It's MUCH worse to do something like this on a physical level than to send someone ( consciously) your desire for friendship or sex or believe a specific person loves you.
Which is worse, Ray? Stabbing someone with a knife, or stabbing them with your words? Most people would assume a knife is worse, but given the right words, the right delivery and the right pair of participants, words can do as much or more damage.
Thoughts are not "only as real as manifested", and in fact that is self evident by virtue of the fact that were that thought "not real" until it was manifest, it could not manifest!
Furthermore, thought alone isn't what we are talking about here. Thought alone isn't effective for manifestation, it requires other factors as well. And just because the damage done is not physical or obvious does not mean it was not done, not damage, not relevant or without consequences.
I know people who get away with violence against others all the time because they are committing mental and emotional violence. The common person does not recognize those things as existing, and has no real idea what damage they do. But if they did no damage, do you suppose that I would have a job?
Just because it's not obvious doesn't mean it's not there.
The law of attraction states that what we think we become. Yet they( coaches, mentors, etc...)give us affirmations to say in front of the mirror, to write down endless affirmations, to keep repeating them during the day, etc...To think means to think. Such as to consider, to make conclusions, to muse about, to ponder, etc...in our minds not verbally. Then the coaches tell us, we must believe we already have what we want. But we got to know what we WANT. By definition, we have to want something yet not want it instead we need to believe it. Ah, the confusion abounds. Then they tell us, we cant take action, we need to wait for inspired action yet they fail to notice people like Thomas edision who failed 1000x before succeeding. The ultimate reason they tell us not to take action is because they think we will fail. So by definition, if we wait for inspired action we will feel amazing letting us know we will succeed. Then they tell us we need to act as if we already have it. But what happens if you want a girlfriend. You have to act like you left her home when you go out because you couldnt possibly act as if you are with your girlfriend at the mall. When you watch tv, you leave a special seat next to you for your girl? If that's too much perhaps you should have body language like you already have a girl. But seriously how many types of body languages exist?
Then they tell us we need to feel like we already got what we want yet we have never experienced it once in our lives.
What happens if your mother comes around and asks you if you have a girlfriend? Are you supposed to say " Of course, I have her. I can feel it, I do." Even the most hardcore law of attraction fan would see there is something wrong in what you are saying.
They say we cannot ask " How", we must always believe it will happen. We cannot want or need something because somehow the universe will not give it to us. We have told to ignore the future. We are told that our negativity is blocking manifestation and to avoid it all cost and that we must clear it all before we can successfully manifest. And there is more...
Now no coach has ever said it like that but that's what it is. Thats the state of affair of the law of attraction community as of 2019.
Ray, just because you don't understand what the Law of Attraction, and the other laws are saying, or how to use them, doesn't make me wrong. And what you are arguing has nothing to do with the seminal point, which is... never take away the free will or freedom of choice of another person using energy manipulation or manifestation.
However...
The LOA is easy to use. There are only really four things you need: specific knowledge of what you want, sufficient focus, sufficient energy and sufficient emotional involvement. The biggest problems people have is that they are afraid of the process. They disrupt their own success (presuming they did the rest right) by trying too hard to control the outcome consciously.
The concept is, you already have whatever it is you want in some possible future. You just have to focus on that future to experience it, and you do that by attuning to it, which is done by experiencing the desired outcome as already being obtained. You automatically "vibrate" at the frequency that results in that outcome when you do that because it is the only outcome that matches that tuning. So you have to in effect project yourself into that future by experiencing it as having already happened in your mind and imagination, and experiencing the emotional states and especially gratitude that having that outcome brings.
I have tried to explain this to you in the past.
I think the reason why everybody in the law of attraction community as a whole everywhere on the internet have readily accepted the way of applying LOA ( not LOA itself, just the methods of how to apply it) is because everybody is saying the same thing. And people have experienced a bit of success with it. That's it. Everybody is saying it. It sounds like what they are saying is true. There are tons of books stating what everybody else is saying with a few twist. How many people who have consciously applied LOA have become millionaires and billionaires or celebrities for that matter? None, except Oprah or Jim Carrey. But even if you consider them, the success rate is very low in the whole community everywhere on the internet. Its like being attracting girls. Everybody is saying the same things or the underlying messages are similar. Because the experts are saying this and everybody else who is into it is saying this.
The people are simply saying what the experts are saying. They have done no wrong. Thats what you are supposed to do when you want to learn something.
I have decided to think independently of coaches. I want to find my own way of using it. Frankly, I already have it but I cant use it right now because I have to finish something else first. Then I will go apply it and focus on getting women.