SM3 Run-1 Journal Opening to Sexuality & Outgrowing Illusions

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but it is of a disarming simplicity. It boils down to adopt a honesty policy and when you are actually doing it, you find out that it makes you stand out of the crowd and women actually appreciate it.

What makes it hard to do is fears. Fear of what the other is going to think. Fear of rejection and so on...

You have to actually take the courage to do it few times to realize that those fears that are stopping you to be that way are irrationals and invalid.

Let's not forget that it's not all about us, either. I could only imagine the woman's perspective, where a man comes up to her in unusual circumstances and says "I'm thinking of my cock sliding between your ass checks" (which is basically the language used in the book), and she feels a pressure to placate or to not reject outright for fear of reprisal. To her, if the man is already unhinged enough to break five social conventions, what else is he capable of doing?

Just a thought.