(02-09-2014, 07:23 PM)SargeMaximus Wrote: @ Shannon: It is, of course, good to keep such things in mind, but the keeping of it in mind should not be a cause for discouragement, which is what I sensed from your post. If this guy wanted to f*ck the girl or, even, have a relationship with her, but shies away simply because he's afraid of something, in my opinion (unless there is a real threat to his physical safety), "words of caution" (aka "scare tactics" imo) are hardly helpful.
@ K-Train: My experience has been to simply be myself and they often conform. I had a girl recognize me a week after I approached her as I'm sure I mentioned before. My way of thinking is to realize most people are acting out of insecurity and fear, and that they will "reject" me or act weird simply because they are playing the role they usually play. However, if I stay true to myself, I know she's doing a double take when I leave and, as I've seen time and time again, they often try to get with me after realizing their "mistake".
Most people are children, treat them as such.
One of the books I'm reading advocates a similar philosophy. Essentially, its saying have your own values and morals, state your interests to those who you are attracted to in a bold, honest, straightforward manner and then let them decide. So (to piggyback off Fluffybunny's comment) what happens is that initially some women may be taken aback by the high degree of honesty and might seem to be turned off by your persona but later on (if they had any real attraction/interest towards you) they come around.
@MasterEnki: damn bro that's some rough stuff. I'm glad everything came out all right because cases like that can go either way depending on the situation. When you hear the past history on some of these manipulative people it does make you feel somewhat empathetic because a lot of these people have had rough and tragic past experiences. Like you said though, once you manage to identify a dangerous/manipulative person...you gotta be on guard.
@Shannon: Since you've got a great deal of experience in this matter, I'm curious, do these type of women ever let up if the person in question is in close proximity? I know that distancing yourself is usually the way to go but what if AfzalG can't do that right now? I'm asking because I'm curious how he's suppose to deal with this chica if she's this insistent, this manipulative, and this close to him.
EDIT: Sorry AfzalG, didn't see your post. If she "though your heart was softer" she might have thought you were easy pickings. This is good and bad. Good, because she knows you have balls. Bad because you're a challenge to her now, and women with issues (as you know from your own experience) looooooove challenges like you. Absolutely love this shit. I say you watch what you say to her because you *might* need to save some of those messages just in case you have to take her to court or something and you don't want to incriminate yourself with her or have it appeared you "egged her on". My 2 cents. Sorry if I sound preachy and sh!t.
