Rocks x4a-1000 Journal

[Shannon]

In my experience, if a girl does what she did, she's just trying to make it not awkward without really being interested.  If she's still your server, and you keep going, it will get awkward and uncomfortable for her.  The best response is to assume nothing will happen, she's not interested that way, and just disconnect from that possibility and do your thing.  This way nothing gets awkward, and if she is interested, she will take your withdrawal as meaning you are a higher value guy and become more interested.  If she's not interested, then you're showing that you're not needy, which can get you points indirectly.  But avoid being needy or allowing that to be the message at all costs. If I were you, I would just take your interactions with her as a fun social game at this point.

Remember that X4A-1000 is a sexual vibe.  If you don't have some part of you sabotaging it, then she may not be interested in just a sexual thing with you.  It may also be a mismatch to her that you're flooded with raw sexual energy, but you want to date.

Thanks. I'll disconnect as best I can.

The reason the twins are always my servers is cus me and my mom kept getting servers that took our order and we'd never see them again.

The twins were always sweeping or something so we'd ask them.  

So mom suggested requesting one of them.

After a few times requesting, the one twin started greeting me when she saw me.

I had asked for a movie date cus I didn't know how else to see her outside of her work.

With the server I'd like a relationship most likely, but if raw sexual energy won't do the trick then I'm lost. 

I asked for a movie date cus I didn't know how else to see her outside of her work.

I had planned to take a week or two break from the restaurant and see how she reacts seeing me again when I do go back.

Either way I'll definitely disconnect.

Like I said... disconnect any emotional ties, and make interacting with them a fun social game for yourself to enjoy.  If you can pull that off, then it'll be fun for you, fun for them, and attraction may increase towards you because you're not being desperate and because you're a fun guy.

The key to getting servers to transition to out of work interaction is to build a bond with them while they're working until they are comfortable taking it outside work.  The kind of bond necessary depends on a variety of factors, including her personality, your personality and whether you're involved or not.  I have managed to get a number of servers to transition to outside work, but not all of them are females I'd be interested in going after in any way.  Some are too old, some are not my type, and some are just batchit crazy.  In all cases, I approach them as friends, and sometimes we hang out together at their house (with my girlfriend or not).  Have dinner, go out to restaurants and eat, have them pet sit for me, etc.

In my case, I have a woman and I make no effort to hide that fact.  If I wanted to have sex with a server, I could make it happen, but it's not going to happen because I value my current relationship too much for that.  But the key is to build a rapport, be fun and someone she looks forward to seeing, and don't get awkward, needy, creepy, etc.

You mentioned your mom accompanies you on these outings.  How old are you, and how old are these servers you're interested in?  Having mom around can make things much harder, depending on your age (and theirs).