06-11-2024, 12:09 PM
Does SM3 make me less angry with people? I've noticed that I'm much more collected and relaxed when dealing with people or former friends who behave unacceptably. I put my foot down, but I'm also very compassionate and forgiving.
For instance, there's this one guy who is a real manipulator and not trustworthy. I gave him a taste of his own medicine, which made him angry and he stopped contacting me—fine by me. Later, I reached out to explain why I reacted the way I did. He continued to attack and insult me on personal things. In the past, I would have retaliated to make him feel bad. Instead, I said there was no reason to make it personal. I told him, "Now you know what I think about what happened. If you want to talk in the future and make things right, you can." He responded that we shouldn't talk, and I agreed. But I didn't lash out, and I handled it very maturely.
If it's important, here's what happened: We scheduled to meet and try out new bars in a new place. He wanted to go out later than usual, even though everything starts early. When I explained this, he told me to go out earlier if I wanted and let him know if the place was good—which was ridiculous since the place was far from where I live. He wasn't even sure if he wanted to go out or stay at home, so his behavior was very flaky. I asked for a specific time and place, and he replied with "later, I will tell you when," basically playing a power game instead of being accountable. It's a new guy I started going out with recently, and I'm not impressed as he had done something similar before.
By the time he responded, it was already late, so I decided to do something else. Interestingly, after 1.5 hours, he decided he wanted to go out and called me 10 times, but I didn't pick up because I was already engaged in something else. He felt like I stood him up, but I saw it as him being untrustworthy. Ironically, he felt he couldn't trust me either—classic manipulator behavior.
Anyhow, I decided to handle the situation differently from how I used to react before using SM3 and AM6:
1. I decided not to wait for him and did something else, and didn't pick up the phone to signal that my time shouldn't be messed with.
2. I actually reached back out to him instead of just cutting him off, to explain why I reacted the way I did.
3. When he started to insult me, I didn't react and gave him a chance to mend the relationship.
These changes might show a shift in how I handle conflicts and manipulative behavior, after SM3 and AM6.
For instance, there's this one guy who is a real manipulator and not trustworthy. I gave him a taste of his own medicine, which made him angry and he stopped contacting me—fine by me. Later, I reached out to explain why I reacted the way I did. He continued to attack and insult me on personal things. In the past, I would have retaliated to make him feel bad. Instead, I said there was no reason to make it personal. I told him, "Now you know what I think about what happened. If you want to talk in the future and make things right, you can." He responded that we shouldn't talk, and I agreed. But I didn't lash out, and I handled it very maturely.
If it's important, here's what happened: We scheduled to meet and try out new bars in a new place. He wanted to go out later than usual, even though everything starts early. When I explained this, he told me to go out earlier if I wanted and let him know if the place was good—which was ridiculous since the place was far from where I live. He wasn't even sure if he wanted to go out or stay at home, so his behavior was very flaky. I asked for a specific time and place, and he replied with "later, I will tell you when," basically playing a power game instead of being accountable. It's a new guy I started going out with recently, and I'm not impressed as he had done something similar before.
By the time he responded, it was already late, so I decided to do something else. Interestingly, after 1.5 hours, he decided he wanted to go out and called me 10 times, but I didn't pick up because I was already engaged in something else. He felt like I stood him up, but I saw it as him being untrustworthy. Ironically, he felt he couldn't trust me either—classic manipulator behavior.
Anyhow, I decided to handle the situation differently from how I used to react before using SM3 and AM6:
1. I decided not to wait for him and did something else, and didn't pick up the phone to signal that my time shouldn't be messed with.
2. I actually reached back out to him instead of just cutting him off, to explain why I reacted the way I did.
3. When he started to insult me, I didn't react and gave him a chance to mend the relationship.
These changes might show a shift in how I handle conflicts and manipulative behavior, after SM3 and AM6.
AM6 (03.2024)