One of my main goals is to "become a better parent." In short order, I've been led to a book called "Discipline Without Damage." It's eye-opening, describes exactly the situation my wife and I are in with our kids at the moment, our concerns we've had, and seems to be the exact answer we've been looking for. Damn book's made me cry already, from both relief for a helpful answer and shame at my own behavior toward my family out of ignorance.
Not only is this book going to help me become a better parent, but it's helping me understand some of my emotional issues that very likely stem from my own upbringing, and my parents' before them. Forgiving them for not knowing what to do - just like me now - will be easier, and frankly, I already feel lighter about all of it. My wife is also very happy with me for finding the book, and taking steps to be a better father. Should be very good for our relationship.
Not only is this book going to help me become a better parent, but it's helping me understand some of my emotional issues that very likely stem from my own upbringing, and my parents' before them. Forgiving them for not knowing what to do - just like me now - will be easier, and frankly, I already feel lighter about all of it. My wife is also very happy with me for finding the book, and taking steps to be a better father. Should be very good for our relationship.
