05-12-2018, 06:28 AM
(05-11-2018, 11:45 AM)Greenduck Wrote: Hi man,
I'm also struggling with the habit of comparing myself to others, especially people who are successful, strong, confident, or any good attribute. But it's getting better. And I know when comparing you both overlook your own good sides and you don't see the other person for who he or she is, but you just stay in your head. I noticed it get better when you get to know the person you are comparing yourself with.
Also think my issues stems from my mother's narcissistic tendencies and inability to see her child, me, for who I am, rather as seeing it as an extension of herself, thus making it possible to compare. We are so much more than we think, and we can't be compared because we are all amazing. Good luck with your healing!
My mother is ridiculously narcissistic as well. Everything is about her or my half brother who is so much like her it's scary. Neither one can admit fault or accept responsibility for their actions. Both are incredibly bigoted although they will say they aren't. I'm actually the polar opposite of him in that he's currently in treatment for the whatever time,.I have a strong marriage & my wife is my best friend. He is in the process of getting divorced & losing his family because of his alcohol addiction. I don't drink. Not my thing. I don't do drugs of any kind other than the ones I'm prescribed. He can't hold down a job or will quit one for a plethora of lame excuses. I just received acknowledgement as employee of the month for the team I'm on at work. That & I mentioned before how I'm about to start a second job. My mother considers him the golden child of the family & yet I'm somehow lazy . Yeah ok
