07-27-2016, 07:55 AM
I am a formula guy.
Priming + stories + reverse psychology + cognitive dissonance is the method I used to great effect.
Priming - I would use words like adventurous, spontaneous, crazy, wild, cool, your parents or friends would not approve, etc.
Stories - I would tell stories where I had done things that fell into those categories.
Reverse psychology - I would apologize and say something about them not being capable of doing such things. They would then tell me stories where they did do things or wanted to do things.
Cognitive dissonance - I would ask them to do x and talk about how doing it aligned with who they are and not doing it did not align. If they were a different person, I would frame it like a vacation to the past and then ask, "we're your stories really true?"
Nothing works all the time, but that technique worked when I was single and I imagine it would work today.
Priming + stories + reverse psychology + cognitive dissonance is the method I used to great effect.
Priming - I would use words like adventurous, spontaneous, crazy, wild, cool, your parents or friends would not approve, etc.
Stories - I would tell stories where I had done things that fell into those categories.
Reverse psychology - I would apologize and say something about them not being capable of doing such things. They would then tell me stories where they did do things or wanted to do things.
Cognitive dissonance - I would ask them to do x and talk about how doing it aligned with who they are and not doing it did not align. If they were a different person, I would frame it like a vacation to the past and then ask, "we're your stories really true?"
Nothing works all the time, but that technique worked when I was single and I imagine it would work today.
