Look at the Lady Boners! - DMSI V2.2 5.5G

[SargeMaximus]

I can relate to them just fine. But coming to that point required a lot of time for me. I think what you are missing is an understanding that females are human, just like you are. And, that they are typically very different than you. You seem to strongly relate through your mind, which is antithetical to how most women are configured, being primarily emotionally aware instead of focused through pure cold logic, like most guys are. I think that's where a lot of your disconnect comes from: you expect them to be like you in that way.

Well I'd be lying if I said I didn't wish they were more like me lol, but obviously that doesn't work, so what's the solution? I'm getting to the point where people are just mirroring me (I assume) because they want to be in my good graces, but I know it comes with resentment and isn't real, so I feel like I'm trapped behind my status a bit. I need a way to help people be real without changing who I am or losing my integrity.

The key is that you deal with people on terms they can understand and deal with. You can do that without losing your integrity, but they have to be able to connect with you in their own way. I am good at some things and not so good at others, so some types don't mesh with me. But I have taught myself how to understand a variety of different personalities through reading body language, vocalization cues, psychology and through the eyeball method as well.

You need to learn to understand others as they are, and communicate to them in their way. Deal with them in ways they understand and feel comfortable with. They are not you, and they never will be.

Well I can (and do) do this, but I need some more practical methods as well as how to apply that information. I've been reading up on body language recently and just found that it confused things. I find it much easier to push through all the BS and lead people to where I want them to go.