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[LionMonkey]

LM, what you describe is a textbook case of the inexperienced opening, up, letting themselves have a result, getting slapped down because of inexperience, and then reacting with fear and possibly shame, and closing off.

It's not uncommon. And it's part of everyone's journey to success to get slapped down sometimes. No matter who you are or what you do. There's always going to be a slap-down when you are too far off the path. And without a lot of experience in this direction, it's easy to not know where the path is.

But that smackdown isn't failure. It's a learning experience. You are learning, okay, that didn't work. Now you have to figure out what part of it didn't work, and keep what did. Fear and closing off isn't useful, and it won't stick around: the program will take care of that.

Here's a little bit of advice from someone who has suffered more than his share of smackdowns in life.

Failure only exists as failure, if you stop trying to succeed. Success is inevitable to those who refuse to give up.

So spend some time learning what you did right to get those results and what you did wrong, an then get back on your horse and ride out. And no matter how many times you get smacked down, never stop getting back on that horse and riding out. Because every time you get smacked down, you learn something valuable and important, and if you refuse to make the same mistake twice, each smackdown will turn into a gift in the end, when you look back and see that they weren't really smackdowns at all, but rungs on the ladder to success.

This subliminal has guided me immensely to just do the right things most of the time when I interact with a woman. It's like it is combining my knowledge of how female psychology works with my actions, naturally. It makes me a high-value man in the eyes of the women that I meet, who are open and receptive. (though recently, I have stopped being proactive in meeting women.. it's more like if they are near me I'll talk to them but going over to some girls - I don't feel like doing so much anymore.. maybe it's just my ego that needs to recover from the previous bad experiences)

I know what I did wrong that made the "relationships" not even started.

I also have a sense of what I did wrong so I felt that blown out of my great self - I put too much into it (I cared too much for it to depend on my self-esteem because of the good things that came from it. I knew in my head I wasn't attached to it but when it suddenly turns as I didn't expect at all, it took me by surprise) besides that I was having a hard time from my classmates which resulted in no life inspiration at all

I asked people whom I was with a week ago, if they did thought I was quiet a week ago and they all took a moment to think and said, yeah you were.

Funny enough, it's always like this. I'm like having a breakdown period every 3 months or so.

I think though that this awareness has helped me to understand myself better.


With all that said, I feel like I'm ready to roll again! I went to crossfit yesterday and almost died!
I'm doing my daily morning rituals again, stopped playing uncontrolled, stopped worrying about things that are out of my control, really feeling proud of who I am again and started to work out again (this was a BIG one to get back on the horse again for me) .

I find that people, friends, family begin to "step" on you in different ways when you are not proud of yourself. It's like this in my head, "hey! why are you guys like this to me when I need the most guidance/help right now?" it's a motivator to me though. Most people don't know how to talk about it and inspire another person that is "down". I know my recent coach and some of his friends are able to do that but they are not most people