(04-26-2015, 01:53 AM)Shannon Wrote:Quote:Note to shannon : i;m not criticizing your products.... i have huge respect... ive gotten results with non-manifestation products... im just responding to those who think that my life is a mess when infact 80% of my life is a success and all im trying to do is get the remaining 20% under control
Don't worry about it. I can handle criticism, even if you're not intending any. I would not have gotten to where I am if I could not.
Quote:anyway to answer shannon's question: the part of the world where i m from, if i dont find a girl to settle down with myself, my parents will matchmake... trying to avoid that by finding someone on my own and the clock's ticking
The reason I was asking is because I believed that you were so focused on interrupting yourself out of desperation. Desperation is based on fear. Understanding where that fear comes from, and why, is important in allowing me to understand what your situation is so I can try to help you.
In your shoes, I can understand how and why you would be driven by fear. But you're going to have to understand that regardless, you can achieve the goal much better by being at peace within yourself. You need to set it and forget it. I know that's difficult when you are motivated by fear, but I am no stranger to standing in your shoes regarding fear and manifestation programs. I had nothing to really lose when I started using them, and yet I was scared to death. It took me few days to really just let go and trust the program. Three, I think it was. Maybe four. But my fear was in not knowing what would happen if I let go and trusted the program.
Before that I had only done active manifestations, and I was very, very specific. At one point I sat down and drafted a list of 19 different qualities and features I wanted her to have. I was trying to prove to myself that it was not happening by coincidence. So I created this list that was so unlikely that I honestly did not believe I could make it happen, even if it was not by coincidence. Long, wavy naturally flame red hair. Blue eyes, full lips, freckles, C cup breasts, areolas so pale you could not see them, and then I started getting hardcore. I decided that to really test this, she should be 22 years old exactly, and have inverted nipples and be a virgin. How the hell likely are those features all at once? There were a total of 19 such very specific properties, and when I got done, I was estimating the odds. I figured such a woman would be most likely unique in the world, if she existed at all. The hardest test I could throw at it. And I set about my active manifestation protocols, and guess what? She IMed me out of the blue 13 days later and we started talking. Turned out she'd read one of my stories and was a fan. This girl was every bit of everything I had asked for. Perfect. The only thing that kept me from doing anything with her? I had forgotten one critical component. Where she should be located. She was half way around the world from me. In Australia!
At that time, I was far too poor to afford a plane ticket to Australia, never mind lodging, food, transportation. We had a long distance relationship for a couple months, and in spite of how many guys were after her I managed to keep her interest. She even sent me pictures of herself nude, and boy was she a stunner. Every single feature was exactly what I had asked for. Every single feature was p-e-r-f-e-c-t. And yet she slipped out of my grasp, gave her virginity to someone else, and disappeared from my radar because I had forgotten one single detail.
It was at that point, after having five different active manifestations in a row fail because I had always forgotten one key detail, that I decided to try to use the only description being "perfect". And that scared the heck out of me. If I did not specify everything in infinite detail, what if? And what if? And what if?
But over the course of three r four nights of this anxiety, I realized that if she was perfect, it would not matter if I specified anything, because if it worked, she would be perfect. And so I set it and forgot it. Until about 4 months in, when I realized, nothing had happened. And having never used passive manifestation before, I did not know how long it would take. I was going on blind faith, and I was starting to get worried. But I kept going, because I did not know.
Four days later, I got a phone call from a girl I had worked with at a call center a couple years prior, and who had also modeled for me. And we were so powerfully attracted to one another over the phone that even though we had only an hour to talk, we kept talking on IM. And then we discovered that we shared a very specific interest, and that we had also managed to sign up for the very same dating site. When I filled out the matchmaker questionnaire, and searched for matches, she was the first one to pop up, and with a compatibility score of... 100%. That very night, I said something to her, five little words, and those five words kickstarted our relationship. She wanted me to come over and have sex with her that same night, but I would not. I did agree to go on a date with her the next night, however. And again she wanted sex, and again I said no. I knew I had someone special, and I was not about to screw it up by making her think all I wanted was sex.
That woman is still in my life. She and I still share an incredible energy between us that I can only describe as impossibly magnetic and erotic. We cannot go 2 hours together without having sex unless I am playing a subliminal specifically designed to turn off our sex drives. Our natural response to one another is just that powerful, and a few months ago when she came back into my life after a year apart, I told her that we could not go 2 hours without sex and she laughed at me. I should have made a bet, because like clockwork, within 2 hours we were having sex. And she was astonished. She thought she had "outgrown that". But here we are, almost 10 years after having met for the first time, and we still respond to each other that way. Every time. She was who I got answering my call when I called for my perfect lover.
Now, if I had tried to constantly monitor the program's progress, my conscious attention would have derailed my efforts by refocusing my energy in ways that interfered. I have done that to myself in the past, when I first started doing active manifestations. I had a spectacular failure when I was so desperate for money that I never stopped thinking about it and looking for it. That was my second active manifestation. My third was also a spectacular failure, I was trying to get a car, and I did the same thing with the same results. And then I sat down and considered what I had done the first time, differently than the second and third times, and I realized that it was simple. I had focused on what I needed, and I was passionate about it, and when I was done asking for it, I forgot about it and went on with my life. I set it and forgot it.
So, I am not saying the program will not or cannot work for you otherwise, but I am saying this. The best chance of success comes if you set it and forget it. The worst case scenario is that it does not work, right? What happens if you don't use it at all? It will not work. What happens if you self sabotage? Good chance it will not work. But if you set it and forget it, there is a very good chance that you'll get what you ask for.
So given that fact, what is there that you can do to make it work other than setting it down and walking away and allowing the program to do it's thing? Nothing. Nothing at all. The only option you really have is to set it, surrender, be at peace, and forget it.
Peace be with you, my friend. And remember that manifestations sometimes arrive in very unexpected ways, and very unexpected packages. You are not likely to even know what to look for. But when she arrives, there will be no mistake. It's just likely to take a bit of time to realize who you're dealing with at first.
Surrender. Set it and forget it. Trust in yourself. Be at peace. Allow the abundance of the universe to supply you.
But if you had specified a more local area, she might not have existed there and you'd have got no results and thought it didn't work. By adding 'perfect' to include everything you originally couldn't think of might be the limiting factor in these AYP's. Our Perfect types more than likely don't exist in the desired vicinity, if at all
