07-07-2010, 01:39 PM
(This post was last modified: 07-07-2010, 01:42 PM by WildFlower.)
Most of these are issues I've faced before I started the Alpha set and I sought advice about them at the time. Since using the Alpha set these issues haven't arose, but I've no doubt they will given time. I'm sure I'll mostly play it by ear and trust my programming, but right now I'm setting my own standards so I know them in my own mind before anything happens. I'd like anyones personal input on the following:
What is the least and most amount of time you'd allow a girl to get to know you before sex happens?
What is the least and most amount of time you'd allow for a non-verbal, non-official but exclusive relationship to occur?
Would you accept an exclusive relationship offer before having sex?
What is the least and most amount of time you'd allow for an official, exclusive relationship to occur?
Same for living together.
Same for Marriage and children (doesn't concern me just yet but I'm setting my standards now for the sake of prudence.)
Obviously circumstances are different with every case. I've had one night stands, and I've also had sex with friends I've known for years before anything happened. I've had undefined relationship that occurred months after knowing the person, and official relationship which happened within the space of a month or two. Generally though what standards would you hold someone too? This is never something I've done before - pre-empted my standards but I'm sure it will be useful as a backup if I need it. If anyone else has any other standards they'd set, chip in!
What is the least and most amount of time you'd allow a girl to get to know you before sex happens?
What is the least and most amount of time you'd allow for a non-verbal, non-official but exclusive relationship to occur?
Would you accept an exclusive relationship offer before having sex?
What is the least and most amount of time you'd allow for an official, exclusive relationship to occur?
Same for living together.
Same for Marriage and children (doesn't concern me just yet but I'm setting my standards now for the sake of prudence.)
Obviously circumstances are different with every case. I've had one night stands, and I've also had sex with friends I've known for years before anything happened. I've had undefined relationship that occurred months after knowing the person, and official relationship which happened within the space of a month or two. Generally though what standards would you hold someone too? This is never something I've done before - pre-empted my standards but I'm sure it will be useful as a backup if I need it. If anyone else has any other standards they'd set, chip in!
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