02-10-2017, 01:25 PM
Since many of us are on DMSI, choosing to focus on dating and are having similar experiences, I wanted to see what you guys are learning or realizing as you go along in your journey.
I want to hear what you are learning, not about some new fancy technique or tip, and preferably something that you learned through failure or a paradigm shift that changed things for you immensely.
I'm on the path of putting experience over ideas and have chosen to forego most seduction material and rely on myself, so a lot of what I'm trying is simply verifying what I've read or my ideas about dating.
Game doesn't matter, she already likes you
This one took me a very long time to understand, but it's what I'm operating on now.
I was correlating my success in dating with increased skill, but there were times were that idea didn't really make sense, and the holes just became more and more apparent. I realized that I was getting the results I was getting not because I had gotten better, but because these chicks had already made up in their own mind that they were going to fuck me anyway.
It didn't really matter what I said, what I did, or how I appeared, the answer was already YES (unless I did something horrendously stupid
).
My old perspective was that every woman was a NO by default, and while they could be more favorable towards sex or not, I basically had to convince them to fuck me and that was the only way.
A series of unfortunate events where it seemed like absolutely everything went wrong and I still somehow managed to get some action began to clear all this up for me.
It's helped me to accept that yes, I am attractive, and now I don't have to waste time or energy trying to make myself appear more attractive, I can just have fun and guide my date towards my intended outcome.
My Tinder Game In A Nutshell
I'm on my way to revising the way I go about online dating but I thought I'd share my Tinder Game 1.0.
The summary of my game is usually sending a GIF, getting a reply back, and then just asking them what they're doing and what not. I usually continue that conversation thread for a while, try to latch on to the most interesting things they offer and eventually just ask for their number saying "hey i don't check my Tinder very often because I don't have notifications on. Send me your number so I can text you."
Experience is showing me where I can tighten things up and how to improve, but that little formula did get me some pretty cool dates.[/i]
I want to hear what you are learning, not about some new fancy technique or tip, and preferably something that you learned through failure or a paradigm shift that changed things for you immensely.
I'm on the path of putting experience over ideas and have chosen to forego most seduction material and rely on myself, so a lot of what I'm trying is simply verifying what I've read or my ideas about dating.
Game doesn't matter, she already likes you
This one took me a very long time to understand, but it's what I'm operating on now.
I was correlating my success in dating with increased skill, but there were times were that idea didn't really make sense, and the holes just became more and more apparent. I realized that I was getting the results I was getting not because I had gotten better, but because these chicks had already made up in their own mind that they were going to fuck me anyway.
It didn't really matter what I said, what I did, or how I appeared, the answer was already YES (unless I did something horrendously stupid
).My old perspective was that every woman was a NO by default, and while they could be more favorable towards sex or not, I basically had to convince them to fuck me and that was the only way.
A series of unfortunate events where it seemed like absolutely everything went wrong and I still somehow managed to get some action began to clear all this up for me.
It's helped me to accept that yes, I am attractive, and now I don't have to waste time or energy trying to make myself appear more attractive, I can just have fun and guide my date towards my intended outcome.
My Tinder Game In A Nutshell
I'm on my way to revising the way I go about online dating but I thought I'd share my Tinder Game 1.0.
The summary of my game is usually sending a GIF, getting a reply back, and then just asking them what they're doing and what not. I usually continue that conversation thread for a while, try to latch on to the most interesting things they offer and eventually just ask for their number saying "hey i don't check my Tinder very often because I don't have notifications on. Send me your number so I can text you."
Experience is showing me where I can tighten things up and how to improve, but that little formula did get me some pretty cool dates.[/i]
