(11-14-2013, 01:18 AM)FluffyBunny Wrote: then saw a girl i have approached in day time. chatted up with her for liek 10-15min and ***** it up lol cause didnt escalate shit =.=I just woke up so pardon my grammer, I need my coffee before I can think straight.
Just like to point out something, because its something I have fallen victim to in the past a great many times before I started dropping the PUA attitude and realized how BS it is:
Just because you don't escalate within the first 15 minutes means its game over.
You probably won't get her that night, and in some rare situations you may have lost her (cause she wanted to f*** only that night and went home with a guy.), but for the most of the encounters it doesn't mean shit (newsflash: not every girl at a party is looking to go home and f*** a guy she met 15 minutes ago. Arguably life would be so much easier if every girl was doing exactly this, but it isn't the case.)
Part of "releasing expectations towards woman" is exactly this. NOTHING has to happen within the first 15 minutes. It may or may not, in most cases it doesn't matter. Maybe she is going home and hoping to meet you again. If you think you lost her, you obviously have/will. If you understand that there is nothing to lose, then you may continue seeking contact with her..and end up seducing her anyway.
There is no "I have to act now Or I lose her". Its a lie. There is only 'opportunity'. Granted, girls don't like it when you miss out on opportunity. But opportunities come back nonetheless if she is attracted to you. And once you develop your natural game you will "sense" what action you have to take to move forward, and when to take it. At that point it becomes having the confidence and trust in yourself to do it, not following some silly "rules that should work in most cases".
the PUA community teaches you BS. BS that gets you to take action, and is good for your growth, yes, but still BS nonetheless. Reality works completely different from PUA-perceived realities.
Drop the community bullshit before it blinds you (notice I said: community bullshit, not the community entirely. Learn to see things from things)
