Thought I'd report. It's hurricane time staying with my sister using LTU.
I asked my sister if I could stay with her for the hurricane, as my landlord appropriately shutters up his rentals, and my only entrance to my place is a sliding glass door.
I'm tense around my sister. She advocates being emotionally honest and LOUD, even in public. Unfortunately, she's rarely honest with her own emotions, just everybody else's. I don't feel safe with her.
And I've been thinking on how to handle her. Read LTU posts last night. Read Darth's stance on not accepting people not changing, and I sat on it. His growth made me desire it.
I listened to one loop this morning while in bed, thinking of my sis and my growing tenseness. I had stayed in bed, knowing my noises in the kitchen might get her up too. I finally got up for some coffee, and she came out. Ugh. I made up my mind this morning, seeing myself just walking away from her while she talked, and that image is what was in my mind.
We'd been up all of 5 minutes, and she was loud from word 1. I barely looked at her, mumbling agreements (vs. saying "Please go away"). And after 3 minutes of her aimlessly using my ear, I took my coffee and walked out of the kitchen while she rambled.
Thanks for creating LTU Shannon
. Old victim or manipulation tools might have been used before, but I handled myself peacefully, purposefully, and effectively. The stress wasn't in control this time. I had visualized myself taking action.
I asked my sister if I could stay with her for the hurricane, as my landlord appropriately shutters up his rentals, and my only entrance to my place is a sliding glass door.
I'm tense around my sister. She advocates being emotionally honest and LOUD, even in public. Unfortunately, she's rarely honest with her own emotions, just everybody else's. I don't feel safe with her.
And I've been thinking on how to handle her. Read LTU posts last night. Read Darth's stance on not accepting people not changing, and I sat on it. His growth made me desire it.
I listened to one loop this morning while in bed, thinking of my sis and my growing tenseness. I had stayed in bed, knowing my noises in the kitchen might get her up too. I finally got up for some coffee, and she came out. Ugh. I made up my mind this morning, seeing myself just walking away from her while she talked, and that image is what was in my mind.
We'd been up all of 5 minutes, and she was loud from word 1. I barely looked at her, mumbling agreements (vs. saying "Please go away"). And after 3 minutes of her aimlessly using my ear, I took my coffee and walked out of the kitchen while she rambled.
Thanks for creating LTU Shannon
. Old victim or manipulation tools might have been used before, but I handled myself peacefully, purposefully, and effectively. The stress wasn't in control this time. I had visualized myself taking action.
I want to be FREE!
