01-29-2017, 01:10 PM
(01-29-2017, 12:08 PM)Mr. Anderson Wrote:(01-29-2017, 11:40 AM)chaosvrgn Wrote:(01-29-2017, 11:03 AM)Mr. Anderson Wrote: @chaos: I don't know if his post was really all about what you have said. Because I saw some non-constructive posts from people there where people simply said he is hopeless and stuff. Just saying.
You're not doing this individual-- or the other stonewaller, who deleted his journal in a fit of rage at willfully resisting the sub, or ANY individual for that reason -- any favors by feeding into their victim mindsets. I maintain my position.
It wasn't my intention to support someones victim mindset. I simply said that there were some non-constructive posts - which were deleted later - he maybe was talking about. No more or less. Period.
When it comes to the other stuff I didn't like that he wanted to invalidate the results other had in the same way you did.
lol, I'm one of the people he's referring to about deleting the posts. I can't answer for everyone, but here's what happened in my case.
My posts were constructive. They weren't even that harsh. They were written in a no-nonsense tone, but there was no name calling, no insults. Only pure, honest advice -- in which I even admitted to my own issues with women and how they could relate to him. When he ignored my post and responded to everyone else's posts -- who did the whole, YOU CAN DO THIS!!! crap without any actionable advice or constructive criticism -- I followed up and said that I wasn't wasting any more time posting on a journal that seemed more like a "safe space" than a place for improvement. This was not an insult. This is again to show that he is engaging in self-sabotage behaviors (like Sarge said, ignoring the advice of people he acknowledges is getting results by deeming said advice as abusive). I said I respect his right to conduct his journal as he pleases and would delete my posts. Then, I deleted the posts.
Never ONCE did I fear that the admins would look at my post and chastise me for them, because they didn't break any rules nor were they mean-spirited. I maintain that I've been "attacked" just as much or more as this individual. But instead of running away from differing opinions, I always stand my ground, because thesis + antithesis = synthesis. Conflict between two ideas is the foundation of all knowledge.
There is no phenomena occurring on this forum where that one individual is being attacked without warrant. Every strong personality here has been "attacked." Dzemoo. Sickologist. Myself. Sarge. We have all encountered resistance too.
That one individual claims that he doesn't want that stuff in his journal. Cool, that's his prerogative. However, you don't get to invalidate people's results and then hide behind the banner of "I'm just posting my experiences."
