I feel the most reliable way to consciously and rationally let things go with new people who remind of earlier people is to realize "they are not the earlier people even if they share a couple of traits" and remind myself of this fact.
At my neighborhood Starbucks the other day (I think Monday evening), for example, a girl who looked a lot like my first ex was there and ordered; if I hadn't developed discipline from motivational sources like subs I would have had butterflies-in-my-stomach levels of nervousness around her, but instead I gave her a seductive stare, said hello, and she looked down and visibly smiled and blushed. She was a smooth chocolate-caramel complexion and I knew I had affected her because the blushing on her cheeks was extremely visible, and if I still had hang-ups about my ex I wouldn't have been able to do that.
At my neighborhood Starbucks the other day (I think Monday evening), for example, a girl who looked a lot like my first ex was there and ordered; if I hadn't developed discipline from motivational sources like subs I would have had butterflies-in-my-stomach levels of nervousness around her, but instead I gave her a seductive stare, said hello, and she looked down and visibly smiled and blushed. She was a smooth chocolate-caramel complexion and I knew I had affected her because the blushing on her cheeks was extremely visible, and if I still had hang-ups about my ex I wouldn't have been able to do that.
A Better Alex (ISTJ): EPRHA → ASC → AM6 → …
A Sexy Alex (ESTJ-T): BIABWS+DAOS → DMSI → …
A Better Alex (ENFJ-T): AM6 → …
A Sexy Alex (ESTJ-T): BIABWS+DAOS → DMSI → …
A Better Alex (ENFJ-T): AM6 → …
