04-04-2016, 08:21 AM
Had a bit of an insight today. I've noticed my thoughts on what it means to emotionally heal have changed. I'm coming around to the idea that you don't have to fully express what it is you're feeling in order to let it go. Expression isn't bad, it's a lot better than holding it in, but I think there's an even better way that just lets you heal without being caught up in those really raw painful feelings that pop up.
It's kind of like how if you had a deep wound. You could stitch it closed so it heals or you could decide to mash your finger in that wound to see how deep it goes. One of those is incredibly unproductive to healing. That's pretty much what I've been doing to myself, causing more pain by digging deeper when I really don't need to. So what I do now is just identify what it is I'm feeling and then hold onto the intention that I'll let it go. It's not foolproof, but it keeps me in the mentality of letting go and moving on from problems instead of thinking I need to explore them in depth more.
I think I still have some limiting beliefs surrounding the whole healing process. It's odd to think that we can just move past issues and emotional pain with little to no discomfort, but really when you think about it why not? I'll admit for me there's a sort of compulsion to get sucked into these things and play them out in my mind but that's all it is, is a compulsion. Resisting the temptation to dwell on these problems leads to a more effective healing process where you bypass that stage of agitating those emotions and making things worse for yourself.
It's kind of like how if you had a deep wound. You could stitch it closed so it heals or you could decide to mash your finger in that wound to see how deep it goes. One of those is incredibly unproductive to healing. That's pretty much what I've been doing to myself, causing more pain by digging deeper when I really don't need to. So what I do now is just identify what it is I'm feeling and then hold onto the intention that I'll let it go. It's not foolproof, but it keeps me in the mentality of letting go and moving on from problems instead of thinking I need to explore them in depth more.
I think I still have some limiting beliefs surrounding the whole healing process. It's odd to think that we can just move past issues and emotional pain with little to no discomfort, but really when you think about it why not? I'll admit for me there's a sort of compulsion to get sucked into these things and play them out in my mind but that's all it is, is a compulsion. Resisting the temptation to dwell on these problems leads to a more effective healing process where you bypass that stage of agitating those emotions and making things worse for yourself.
