03-19-2016, 08:42 AM
This is gonna be a short one, but today I woke up and I thought back to a couple years ago when I had serious social anxiety problems. If you really like yourself and generate your own internal validation, that anxiety fades away. It's like all that comparing with other people just doesn't matter because you know you like yourself and that's all that matters. I'm honestly amazed at just how much I hated myself in the past. No wonder I had so much anxiety, it was like trying to constantly hide some deep dark secret whenever I interacted with people. It's funny because I always thought once I became super confident my insecurities would go away. But now I'm realizing a truly confident person doesn't worry about not appearing confident. A confident person understands they can't be perfect all the time, they'll make mistakes, they'll be wrong, that ultimately all that matters is their own life and not how it compares to those around them. That means it's alright if I can't be constantly improving every day, sometimes there are setbacks but that's all part of growth. In the end people are either going to like you or they won't and there is nothing you can do about it. No sense trying to force yourself to be someone you're not.
That being said sometimes I get down on myself because I feel like I'm not as productive as I should be. But I've decided to make it a goal to do at least 1 thing every day that will improve my situation, no matter how small. In general I've reduced a lot of pressure I was putting on myself to pull a complete 180 in my life in a short span of time. If it happens, good. If it doesn't, I'm still improving. In the meantime having that constant anxiety of needing to get better does nothing for my quality of life and if anything takes me away from the enjoyment of it.
For anyone wondering I think I'm averaging 12 hours a day on this sub. I've found that I don't get tired from it anymore and most of the time listening to it actually gives me energy. So if you feel like you could listen more I'd say go for it. In my experience it really helps me stay on target with what the sub is trying to achieve.
That being said sometimes I get down on myself because I feel like I'm not as productive as I should be. But I've decided to make it a goal to do at least 1 thing every day that will improve my situation, no matter how small. In general I've reduced a lot of pressure I was putting on myself to pull a complete 180 in my life in a short span of time. If it happens, good. If it doesn't, I'm still improving. In the meantime having that constant anxiety of needing to get better does nothing for my quality of life and if anything takes me away from the enjoyment of it.
For anyone wondering I think I'm averaging 12 hours a day on this sub. I've found that I don't get tired from it anymore and most of the time listening to it actually gives me energy. So if you feel like you could listen more I'd say go for it. In my experience it really helps me stay on target with what the sub is trying to achieve.
