DMSI 3.2 Random Musings and Journalings

[Have at ye]

As a woman, I have to say, most women have amazing self control when it comes to sex/whatever. women are not like men in the sense that they easily give in to sexual desires. its is much more important to feel trust, safe and comfortable, than to give in to lust. lust doesn't mean much to a woman when it comes to action taking. the thing that will make a woman take action more, is love or infatuation. and even then, she will not make a move if she has a lot of doubts, or she is unsure. especially if there is a bad consequence. if a woman takes action, she must really really like you. its not just me, i know a lot of women are this way.....they can talk about crushes or whatever to their friends, but they don't do anything.....most of the time.....if she takes action, she must have a really aggressive personality or she must really like you a lot....it is just my observation, women are not very bold when it comes to things like this, especially if there's a bad consequence....women are naturally more cautious and less of a risk taker than men...it is funny, women can rant and rant to their friends, but will not do anything...maybe she can flirt or dance around, most of the time, she will not be direct....of course, there are always exceptions....but i think a lot of women are like this...most probably, she will not compromise her marriage, just for a fling....unless she doesn't care about her marriage

This is so true, from what I've seen the more a girl likes you the more she tends to run away from it especially the younger ones. Not too long ago one girl friend saying "no he doesn't like me, I already tried being aggressive with him and he hates me", I asked what she did and she said "i sat at his table and looked over as i sat down, he didn't look up at all, so i got up and left"

To be fair, for a girl to go sit down at some guys table in the library who she hasn't been introduced to with a smile is pretty aggressive, but i'd say 80-90% of guys wouldn't "get it" and continue on as normal. The only time i've seen women approach men in an obvious way is when they are nearing the point of blacking out on alcohol or drugs, I've never seen an a sober approach by a woman that looks anything like a male approach, it's all extremely subtle.

Also agree with the trust, safety, and comfort, I shake my head every time guys try to have the DMSI script do something along the lines of "make the sexual attraction 100x stronger, dont let her masturbate the attraction away, etc" lol the attraction could be 100,000x stronger but if there is no trust, safety, and comfort nothing will ever ever ever happen with that girl.

Well, I've experienced way more direct apporaches even from young girls and in public (and sober), but I guess that's DMSI magic.

What I try to do when a girl's trying to be too subtle for her own good, and I do not mean to scare her off (because them fraidy cats sometimes get jumpy when you actually do react the way they think they'd like you to ), is try and be encouraging to whatever's she's doing, through subtle means. Let her feel happy that whatever she's doing seems to be working ("OMG he likes me he likes me aaaah, I'm totally seducing him" or somesuch ).