05-09-2017, 12:15 AM
(This post was last modified: 05-09-2017, 12:56 AM by Dr. Strangelove.)
There is so much good stuff going on here, I’ll make myself a bowl of popcorn to read it all tonight.
I didn’t want this comment to go unnoticed because it raises a question of user’s accountability.
I can’t say I’ve stepped on too may toes in the past; only once I knew her guy and felt bad afterwards and obsessed over guilt. Then I realized it didn’t really mean anything to me or her; it was done to me once and I learned not to trust any girl and suck it up and move on, and not seek revenge. I’ve learned how to trust again when I realized I was making myself unavailable.
That one time I was cheated on, was when I got clingy and jealous. On the other side, when I had a girlfriend and had other girls approaching me, she was super loyal.
That’s the background to what happened a few weeks ago, I made out with a girl I met at the club; in a dark corner (bless them) she had a feel of me, and I had a feel of her; she got antsy when I put my hand inside her knickers. It happens. Minutes before that, she saw I had a ring on, and announced she was engaged to someone. After that, bam. Making out is all that happened; marking progress in DMSI, this is way beyond seeing her and not noticing connection, and doing nothing; beyond just chatting; a little short of taking her out of the club, to find a quiet place with a bed. She wouldn’t have done it. Later I thought about what a funny and exciting girl she is, but regret for not taking it further on one side, or feeling sorry for her guy on the other, didn’t linger much. I don’t know anything about her or him, nor I care to find out. Even if the other guy was on the fence about her, he’d flip if he found out. It sucks for him. I don’t know what she’s thinking either, if she thinks it’s a bit of fun like I do, then all the world is green.
My wifey was there when a girl approached me at NYE party and then asked if I’d come with her, because her friend “wanted to have a photo with me”. I declined. Wifey has thought of this a few weeks ago, and asked me directly - what would have happened if she wasn’t there? I said I would have followed the girl. She asked me what then? I said I’d talk to her friend. What then? I’d have photo with her and her friend. What then? We’d have a drink. This game of direct questions and cheeky answers turned into foreplay, which turned into sex. She was the other girl, and we had sex as if I was someone she just met that night, and decided on the spot she had to have him. See how that works? I know how to play it, but I don’t fully understand it.
Also she arranged us to have threesome with her hot girlfriend from overseas. I haven’t asked her to do this again, or had a chance to introduce anyone to her like this, this is largely due to feeling less than top dog while healing is kicking my ass. I can’t pull it off now, I don’t have enough faith in myself. If I was running AM still, I would. Note, this isn’t saying that I wouldn’t end up divorced if I tried and went all out and let her know this is how it will be, but I am prepared to have that if I want to live this way. Maybe this is the smart way; she knows, but she doesn’t. But I really like those threesomes…
To flip the table over, I absolutely trust her; she isn’t messing me around with anyone else. If rumours say she is, and she says she isn’t, then she isn’t. Even if someone sends me pictures of her with another guy, and she says it isn’t true and she loves me, then that’s all there is to it. That’s about the extent of my confidence and trust in her. She’s beautiful, I’ll never give up on her out of insecurity or jealousy, but she’s free to go if she wants to, as I am. None of this says I’d ever leave my kids behind, though.
So going back to original question, messing with someone else’s girlfriend; each will make up their mind to their conscience and experience. With enough clearing, I’d like to think all users will come to a conclusion of believing in abundance of women, in which case they don’t need to scratch the itch with the first girl who gives them the eye, especially if there are complications involved. Or feel compelled to prove they’re a better man than her guy is. Why that one, when there are other ones with no attachments? A filter can also be introduced, so it filters out potential targets in committed relationships, if there is genuine interest to suggest to Shannon.
On DMSI I’ve seen a girl looking and smiling at me and her guy noticing and staring at her, not me. There will be more of this happening to everyone on DMSI. Personally, I’m not interested in girls with boyfriends unless they aggressively pursue me. One from the club was a one-off. :angel:
Edit: Sorry for hijacking your thread Duke!
(05-08-2017, 03:29 AM)blackwing Z Wrote: Lmao like ruining a family's harmony and trust isn't ducked up. Cmon... u too sub privileged
I didn’t want this comment to go unnoticed because it raises a question of user’s accountability.
I can’t say I’ve stepped on too may toes in the past; only once I knew her guy and felt bad afterwards and obsessed over guilt. Then I realized it didn’t really mean anything to me or her; it was done to me once and I learned not to trust any girl and suck it up and move on, and not seek revenge. I’ve learned how to trust again when I realized I was making myself unavailable.
That one time I was cheated on, was when I got clingy and jealous. On the other side, when I had a girlfriend and had other girls approaching me, she was super loyal.
That’s the background to what happened a few weeks ago, I made out with a girl I met at the club; in a dark corner (bless them) she had a feel of me, and I had a feel of her; she got antsy when I put my hand inside her knickers. It happens. Minutes before that, she saw I had a ring on, and announced she was engaged to someone. After that, bam. Making out is all that happened; marking progress in DMSI, this is way beyond seeing her and not noticing connection, and doing nothing; beyond just chatting; a little short of taking her out of the club, to find a quiet place with a bed. She wouldn’t have done it. Later I thought about what a funny and exciting girl she is, but regret for not taking it further on one side, or feeling sorry for her guy on the other, didn’t linger much. I don’t know anything about her or him, nor I care to find out. Even if the other guy was on the fence about her, he’d flip if he found out. It sucks for him. I don’t know what she’s thinking either, if she thinks it’s a bit of fun like I do, then all the world is green.
My wifey was there when a girl approached me at NYE party and then asked if I’d come with her, because her friend “wanted to have a photo with me”. I declined. Wifey has thought of this a few weeks ago, and asked me directly - what would have happened if she wasn’t there? I said I would have followed the girl. She asked me what then? I said I’d talk to her friend. What then? I’d have photo with her and her friend. What then? We’d have a drink. This game of direct questions and cheeky answers turned into foreplay, which turned into sex. She was the other girl, and we had sex as if I was someone she just met that night, and decided on the spot she had to have him. See how that works? I know how to play it, but I don’t fully understand it.
Also she arranged us to have threesome with her hot girlfriend from overseas. I haven’t asked her to do this again, or had a chance to introduce anyone to her like this, this is largely due to feeling less than top dog while healing is kicking my ass. I can’t pull it off now, I don’t have enough faith in myself. If I was running AM still, I would. Note, this isn’t saying that I wouldn’t end up divorced if I tried and went all out and let her know this is how it will be, but I am prepared to have that if I want to live this way. Maybe this is the smart way; she knows, but she doesn’t. But I really like those threesomes…
To flip the table over, I absolutely trust her; she isn’t messing me around with anyone else. If rumours say she is, and she says she isn’t, then she isn’t. Even if someone sends me pictures of her with another guy, and she says it isn’t true and she loves me, then that’s all there is to it. That’s about the extent of my confidence and trust in her. She’s beautiful, I’ll never give up on her out of insecurity or jealousy, but she’s free to go if she wants to, as I am. None of this says I’d ever leave my kids behind, though.
So going back to original question, messing with someone else’s girlfriend; each will make up their mind to their conscience and experience. With enough clearing, I’d like to think all users will come to a conclusion of believing in abundance of women, in which case they don’t need to scratch the itch with the first girl who gives them the eye, especially if there are complications involved. Or feel compelled to prove they’re a better man than her guy is. Why that one, when there are other ones with no attachments? A filter can also be introduced, so it filters out potential targets in committed relationships, if there is genuine interest to suggest to Shannon.
On DMSI I’ve seen a girl looking and smiling at me and her guy noticing and staring at her, not me. There will be more of this happening to everyone on DMSI. Personally, I’m not interested in girls with boyfriends unless they aggressively pursue me. One from the club was a one-off. :angel:
Edit: Sorry for hijacking your thread Duke!
