(04-19-2017, 08:46 PM)Illumi Wrote: Hey man you said something about the less you care, the more she wants you! Does this only apply if you all allready with her? Or hd sex with her? In my case when i don't care i just come off as unintrested and nothing every happens. If i dont show intrest or show that i care absolutly nothing happens.
I generally have a detached approach to women these days, however, it is an emotional and partially personal detachment. What that means for me during my exchanges equates to the fact that I don't necessarily hold myself back in the event that my interest is purely physical - I make that intention known verbally for the most part or I at least convey it with my eyes.
It's hard to explain, as the situation is different with different women.
The best advice I can give you is, if you know exactly what you want from a woman, most of the time she'll pick up on that and she'll give it to you, if she wants you. And I think most women do.
But women are also culturally different, they have different personalities from different cities, and how you approach them will garner different reactions.
I'm not making a hell of a lot of sense here, so let me give you an example of something that happened to me a long, long time ago in a galaxy far far away.
I lived in Seoul, Korea for two years due to work, I was an expat out there. One day I went out to dinner with a friend of mine who was getting together with a group of his High school friends. They were all in their late 20's at that time, but they still got together on a semi regular basis. There were four guys and two girls in their group.
Anyway, after dinner we hit two other bars, and then one of the guys and one of the girls left. So now there were three guys and one girl from their group and me.
The girl wanted to go dancing, so we went to some local bar club place. She was the only one dancing, none of the other guys would dance with her. I was like, dude, if you guys won't, I will.
Two dances later she grinded on me and then we kissed. The guys wanted to go ahead to the next bar to keep drinking. She and I stayed behind, found a dark, secluded spot, and we had sex.
That was easily one of my favorite sexual experiences. Not cuz the sex was great, I honestly don't remember now if it was, but, it was exciting.
The funny thing is, I later found out as I kept in touch with one other guy from the group, besides my friend that I knew, that all three of those guys were in love with this girl from their days in high school.
I felt kind of shitty afterwards, but not a whole hell of a lot of shitty. Cuz, that shit was fun.
The moral of the story is, the guys were acting uninterested. They didn't dance with her. I wasn't emotionally interested in the girl, but I thought she was hot. I ended up having sex with her, and they lived in their emotional bubble of being in love with her.
It's a balance. You need to know what you want, for you to get it. Just don't mix up your sexual intentions with your emotional ones. Women can smell the difference. I'm actually starting to wonder whether our pheromone signatures are triggered and amplified when we connect with a primal part of our brains that just wants to procreate.
