(04-17-2023, 07:13 AM)Shannon Wrote: In my opinion, the best way forward - given that information - is going to be one of the following.
1. Go back to one of these women who has given you obvious interest, and get her contact information, consciously and intentionally. Make it happen. Then consciously assert yourself to move forward with the rest and get to sex. This will likely require spending a little time connecting with and communicating to that younger part of you who still has the beliefs you're trying to overcome, letting him know that current you doesn't believe them to be true anymore, and giving him permission to let go and allow sex to happen.
2. Run OGSF for 6 months or whatever.
3. Hire someone to have sex with you. Normally I would not advise this, but in certain circumstances, this can be a great way to get past your fears.
You're going to find that DMSI 3.5 and X4A-1000 are worlds apart. X4A is like a stripped down DMSI, set to "easy mode". If you're having this sort of issues, DMSI 3.5 isn't likely going to solve them, in my opinion. OGSF... that will. Or just consciously powering through. Or breaking through with Option #3.
Hmm...
I read your post earlier today and have been thinking through how I want to deal with this. I'm currently in my 3rd cycle now and am playing 5 loops. With that being said, I've been getting more looks and results from women so today I tried to go with option #1 and consciously try to initiate conversation and simply be myself. Turns out, it hasn't been working. I've tried with multiple women, even girls who showed significant attraction but for whatever reason, it's like my mind has other plans. Today, I've struggled to be myself. Constant brain fog and trouble just speaking, in general. I know this sounds weird but it's happened to me before.
For example, today I was walking to class and there were many many girls looking and smiling at me so I was feeling pretty good. Later when I get to my building and step into the elevator, I notice a girl walking towards the elevator and hold the door for her. I then ask her what floor. She says, "4th floor" and immediately stops looking at her phone so that she can show that she's wanting to have a conversation. So far so good. So I ask her what class do you have. She said English. She then excitingly asks what class do I have. Then my mind blanked. Literally blanks. I suddenly forget the class I've been taking for 4 months now. We get off the elevator and as I'm a step or two away from the door to my class, I finally remember the word: Philosophy.
I'm honestly laughing about this right now as I'm typing because it's so stupid. This girl was a 6 and I wasn't nervous around her at all. In fact, at the time of her walking in, I was killing it. I could have gotten her phone number easily, especially the way she was looking at me. But, I'm guessing due to the high probability that I could have gotten her number, my mind decided to shut down and self-sabotage due to the fear of sex that may result from this one interaction. This isn't the first time this has happened.
Anyways, I tried all day today but I haven't gotten anywhere. So, as we speak, I'm looking into option #3 since it may be the best (and most time-effective) way to deal with this. Need to make sure I'm being safe about this so I'm doing my research.
I think it's ironic how your intentions can bring about different results than intended. For example, my parents didn't intend on me hooking up with a sex worker when they told me to open my Bible as a kid. They were just trying to make me a morally upright person. But, here we are. Sometimes we have good intentions, especially with our beliefs, but they end up limiting us, or in my case, emotionally tormenting us.
With that being said, I wanted to say thank you Shannon. Even though I'm still facing problems like these in my life, your subs are helping me deal with them, even if subs like X4A-1000 don't naturally change my beliefs. I'm still taking this area of my life head on and that's important. Also, the results from X4A-1000 and UMS have been pretty astounding, to say the least.
