Thanks so much!
I believe it was about the 21st - 23rd of April, cos I looked back to see when I asked him to "follow" him on instagram and he accepted. So that's about month 4 and a bit.
I took a break from men for a year and just went back to dating on the 8th of April. But A really is the most likely to - if any of them - be boyfriend-y. A lot of the others just want sex.
I also re-connected (no, I didn't have sex with him, I still by choice have not had sex for over a year, only had that one kiss on my first date after I got back into dating) with a lover from the past, though I'm trying to friend-zone him cos we probably shouldn't go down that road and we were going to meet at least as friends but then his work got crazy & honestly I felt a bit sad that we couldn't.
HE'S said some things that imply he's open to a relationship with me but still mmm predominantly being sexual. Saying a few things though a bit stronger than usual though in the past he HAS even sort of proposed and everything but it's never been clear cut with us. But saying things like "I like you a lot" and "I want more than just a shag."
Waters have always been murky between us two and he wants a wife and i want a live-out boyfriend so already those are different goals! But I'd still like to see him again.
A is still the best bet but well the ball's in HIS court now so to speak. I sent him a message with prospective plans after he messaged me saying what do I want to go/see/do and is his age a problem for me (it's not!) and that "I can't believe we're finally going to be meeting!"
But in reply to the message of prospective plans, he's replied "We'll sort something out :-)"
So, I'm backing WAY off. I replied "Ok :-) "
And my thoughts were a bit all over the place. Like all this anxiety about meeting A and what if he's not attracted. But now I'm like oh WHATEVER, back to coping with life, I guess. And if he comes to the party, GREAT.
I just have to be patient and keep doing this.
Cos like i said, I HAVE seen changes and hopefully it's just a matter of time.
My feelings so far are that YES this sub DOES take a long time well for some of us but also that it works.
I feel more confident overall now that I CAN attract my perfect boyfriend, though I still have times of doubt.
I believe it was about the 21st - 23rd of April, cos I looked back to see when I asked him to "follow" him on instagram and he accepted. So that's about month 4 and a bit.
I took a break from men for a year and just went back to dating on the 8th of April. But A really is the most likely to - if any of them - be boyfriend-y. A lot of the others just want sex.
I also re-connected (no, I didn't have sex with him, I still by choice have not had sex for over a year, only had that one kiss on my first date after I got back into dating) with a lover from the past, though I'm trying to friend-zone him cos we probably shouldn't go down that road and we were going to meet at least as friends but then his work got crazy & honestly I felt a bit sad that we couldn't.
HE'S said some things that imply he's open to a relationship with me but still mmm predominantly being sexual. Saying a few things though a bit stronger than usual though in the past he HAS even sort of proposed and everything but it's never been clear cut with us. But saying things like "I like you a lot" and "I want more than just a shag."
Waters have always been murky between us two and he wants a wife and i want a live-out boyfriend so already those are different goals! But I'd still like to see him again.
A is still the best bet but well the ball's in HIS court now so to speak. I sent him a message with prospective plans after he messaged me saying what do I want to go/see/do and is his age a problem for me (it's not!) and that "I can't believe we're finally going to be meeting!"
But in reply to the message of prospective plans, he's replied "We'll sort something out :-)"
So, I'm backing WAY off. I replied "Ok :-) "
And my thoughts were a bit all over the place. Like all this anxiety about meeting A and what if he's not attracted. But now I'm like oh WHATEVER, back to coping with life, I guess. And if he comes to the party, GREAT.
I just have to be patient and keep doing this.
Cos like i said, I HAVE seen changes and hopefully it's just a matter of time.
My feelings so far are that YES this sub DOES take a long time well for some of us but also that it works.
I feel more confident overall now that I CAN attract my perfect boyfriend, though I still have times of doubt.
