05-26-2013, 06:41 PM
Last night I went out with a friend to meet up with some of his friends. Yup, expanding my social circle. Fun stuff.
When I arrived, there were just 4 of us men and no ladies. At this point they are talking to each other because they are a small group of friends and I am being brought into here, so it is difficult for me to catch a way into their conversations. I manage and eventually it happens. I don't stress about it.
Then afterwards, a young woman and her boyfriend show up, and one more single lady shows up afterwards. We introduce and quickly I end up sitting with the two ladies (not next to both of them unfortunately!). I'm sitting next to the taken one and we make nice small talk. Funny, because at the end of the night my friend that brought me had said to me "it looked like you were hitting on her, just want to let you know that her boyfriend gets very jealous." My reply was of course I'm no home wrecker!
Anyway, I'm amazed at how easy it is to socialize with women. I had a get together with my coworker who is married, but we talked about me and my ex. Basically I've got to shut that door with her and I completely agree; I've made a mistake in having sex with her again and now I have learned from it.
Among the few subjects we talked about, we were talking about other coworkers and what not. Basically we have this one coworker who "puts the moves" on the ladies and we both agree that it's completely wrong for him to do so in our professional environment given our line of work. I also note that I don't know how to hit on women to her. She said that I shouldn't have to "put the moves" on the ladies and I should just be myself. When she said that, it clicked and I suddenly realized that I don't need to be like a PUA running lines to pick up women, I just need to talk to them like human beings with a genuine interest.
I'm not sure if I'm just being introspective or if it's a combination of that plus the WM. But whatever it is I'm beginning to be more comfortable with myself. Now it's time for me to put what I have learned into action (and part of this post was to remind myself of the epiphany I had today).
When I arrived, there were just 4 of us men and no ladies. At this point they are talking to each other because they are a small group of friends and I am being brought into here, so it is difficult for me to catch a way into their conversations. I manage and eventually it happens. I don't stress about it.
Then afterwards, a young woman and her boyfriend show up, and one more single lady shows up afterwards. We introduce and quickly I end up sitting with the two ladies (not next to both of them unfortunately!). I'm sitting next to the taken one and we make nice small talk. Funny, because at the end of the night my friend that brought me had said to me "it looked like you were hitting on her, just want to let you know that her boyfriend gets very jealous." My reply was of course I'm no home wrecker!
Anyway, I'm amazed at how easy it is to socialize with women. I had a get together with my coworker who is married, but we talked about me and my ex. Basically I've got to shut that door with her and I completely agree; I've made a mistake in having sex with her again and now I have learned from it.
Among the few subjects we talked about, we were talking about other coworkers and what not. Basically we have this one coworker who "puts the moves" on the ladies and we both agree that it's completely wrong for him to do so in our professional environment given our line of work. I also note that I don't know how to hit on women to her. She said that I shouldn't have to "put the moves" on the ladies and I should just be myself. When she said that, it clicked and I suddenly realized that I don't need to be like a PUA running lines to pick up women, I just need to talk to them like human beings with a genuine interest.
I'm not sure if I'm just being introspective or if it's a combination of that plus the WM. But whatever it is I'm beginning to be more comfortable with myself. Now it's time for me to put what I have learned into action (and part of this post was to remind myself of the epiphany I had today).
