04-02-2018, 03:38 PM
(04-02-2018, 03:08 PM)findingme Wrote: Sarge,
I am curious, and seeking to be considerate too. You've been here a number of years, and you have had a bit of history using Shannon's subs.
What are you seeking to heal--considering your thread's title? What areas of your life do you still feel "unhealed" in?
I ask simply since I still have sexual shame and fear, and I've been encouraged to use DMSI specifically for this. For me, shame is a BIG issue. Today, while riding around for work, I saw 5 late teens walking down their private dirt road, all in bikinis walking towards the beach. Their backs were to us. We drove by......and I turned my head away while driving by to avoid eye contact. I knew they were looking for attention, but something just didn't feel right. I felt responsible, but I felt a shame which grew for a while. I went into a shame spiral, so to speak. Shame is a nasty b****.
I also imagined having DMSI hit me--feeling much more confident about myself. Not that I'd do anything with these girls, but feeling confident to flirt, without GSF.
What are you using DMSI-A for?
Hey man, thanks for sharing your story! I can totally relate as I've had my share of that BS when I was younger. For me the main thing that needs healing is the overall mindset I have.
I need to trust my intuition more and put less faith in theories and advice that have no "gut feeling" associated to them.
I'm listening to a book on audible right now called "Relentless: From Good to Great to Unstoppable" and is written by Michael Jordan's personal coach Tim S. Grover. His main point is that you know, instinctively, how to succeed in anything, you just have to trust your instincts.
You'd think a world-class coach would be all about hard work and techniques, and he is, but it's from a "listen to your gut" perspective.
I haven't finished it yet but, near as I can tell, you're supposed to just do your thing without thinking, and learn as you go. Practice and learn of course, but whenever you're "in the game", you shouldn't be thinking.
Anyhow, moving towards that is kind of my main focus.
I liken it to healing because this idea that you need to adopt something outside of yourself is toxic, but, in much the same way, the idea that you don't have to improve to get better is also toxic.