(09-29-2016, 07:50 PM)CatMan Wrote: That's great you are an ascendant alpha now.
I'm not, I've taken some very small steps on a very long journey. I'm going to ignore the sarcasm.
(09-29-2016, 07:50 PM)CatMan Wrote: But, are you having sex?
No, not right now. It didn't work out with the girl I was seeing.
(09-29-2016, 07:50 PM)CatMan Wrote: With women that are very attractive?
I found her attractive but I don't know if you would. Sex with beautiful women is nice, I won't say no, but I'd like to think this isn't a goal for me anymore.
(09-29-2016, 07:50 PM)CatMan Wrote: I don't think there's anything wrong with desiring women, as a normal heterosexual male.
I agree.
(09-29-2016, 07:50 PM)CatMan Wrote: You shouldn't have to pick between ascendant alpha asexual monk, or playboy.
You don't have to. You're committing a logical fallacy.
(09-29-2016, 07:50 PM)CatMan Wrote: Traditional alphas are leaders, but also get sex with attractive women easily. I know which one I'd rather be.
I'm suggesting that when you're content with how much sex you've had you might change your mind because the value of sex will become zero to you.
(09-29-2016, 07:50 PM)CatMan Wrote: I think the focus of the program needs a rethink is all,
I disagree, if anything I think it needs to become more focused so that it happens faster but I think it's in a good place right now if people are persistent enough.
(09-29-2016, 07:50 PM)CatMan Wrote: it may be pointing us to a place where we aren't truly understood or valued properly by others. And, since we live in a society that we want to enjoy our newfound development in, and don't live in a vacuum, the end goal may require a rethink to put us in the position we want to be in.
This is all extrinsic motivation. You might want to review the research done by Deci and Ryan on Intrinsic Motivation and Self-Determination.
My point is not that you should be sexless, my point is that I think the AM program is going in the right direction and that it's either not in the direction you want or you haven't been patient enough. I'm also suggesting that when you feel like you've had enough sex (which for me happened as a result of AM) you might agree.