07-11-2016, 11:24 AM
(07-11-2016, 10:56 AM)SargeMaximus Wrote:(07-11-2016, 09:16 AM)dissonance Wrote:(07-11-2016, 07:51 AM)SargeMaximus Wrote:(07-11-2016, 07:42 AM)Shannon Wrote: I'm not using scare tactics. I'm telling you what I wish someone had told me when I was in your shoes. And what I wish Dave and Shawn and all the rest had listened to when I tried to help them. I don't need to help you, you're welcome to all the suffering you want. I just don't like seeing people suffer needlessly.but Sarge by now even if we assume that aggressiveness hatred and
You do what you think works. But your level of understanding is making things seem to be different than they actually are.
You won't believe me for a long time, if you follow in the footsteps of Dave and Shawn. And that's exactly what you're doing, but hey. Some people need to learn the hard way.
Why don't women like me when I'm calm and content then? If that works, sign me up. I just haven't seen it. What should I look for?
I'm serious. I don't want to be angry (it's not my default) so the less energy I have to spend the better. But why is it the only thing that works?
You can be non-angry and hateful but still enthusiastic and energetic and fun etc...no?
Of course I can. I'm like this quite often but I'm sure I've said more than once that people don't like me when I'm like that. Also, with women, it doesn't seem to change anything. The only thing that creates the attraction is either anger, hate, or spitefulness.
But if you come to think about it the aggressive hate bad ass approach has not led you also "to sucess". And i guess yiu have been trying for sometime now. I have this feeling you should keep yourself open to all possibilities. Take the toolkit approach: the what works approach. Try different stuff and go your way. Do not complicate things for yourself. A good way to start is not to go into endless discussions about things that sometimes do not deserve your effort. How about writing about the sub and what it does or does not do for you. I do not get that in your journal at all!!!