08-25-2014, 09:28 AM
(08-24-2014, 10:16 PM)Benjamin Wrote: Her saying that is basically a form of control and trying to use sex to manipulate you into a relationship. In the past i've stayed strong and said "no i'm not going to promise that" and been prepared to lose her and several times they have been okay with having sex anyway.
It's just bs really.. maintain your own frame and she will probably have sex with you. And you agreeing to hanging out next time without doing anything you are just buying into her bs.
-Ben
She seems a bit freaked out about the idea of sex, and I think she just equivocated sex with a serious relationship.
To everyone who commented, we've gotten to third base on one another on the two occasions that we've gotten together, despite her caveat on both occasions. Just yesterday (Day 5), I even had a condom on, and she was allowing me to slowly insert myself until it hurt; I didn't get very far.
I can see that she sees actual sex as a big deal, and the fact that putting anything in her cause pain doesn't help. No rose-colored glasses here.
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