Shannon's Journal Discussion

[Jakeb203]

Maybe you could now add the suggestions for am7

-to have no other interest in women than sex
-to not fall in love with any woman


Because many user here have the problem that they emotionaly attach to women they sleep with and therefore cant be indifferent anymore

I agree with you on that the person who cares less will have more control/influence over the relationship. Especially when it is not done from a manipulative process. Speaking outside from psychological views, it's actually an universal truth. If you don't care her as much, she will care more as long as she perceives you to be a valuable. Simple.

But I do not quite agree on using women only for sex though. This will make things quite boring. I mean it's all cool to sleep with a bunch of women who you don't care about, but experiences take various forms. Having sex is one of them. There can also be women who you do love and wish to engage with on a mutual benefit basis.

I honestly believe that a guy who is competent with women (not only limited to pick up artist) is able to handle all forms of experience with women. We can generically conclude them in a few categories: Girlfriends, Lovers, Hookups, Friends, and Best Friends. You can have different commitment levels with all of them, and whether you want to do anything with them is up to you. It doesn't always have to be IDGAF all the time, unless if you are in the pickup phase of you life when you believe you should only sleep with women and nothing else. I mean it's definitely a personal preference, but I also think that having options with women is great also. You can choose to love her, or not love her. In my case I'd just leave the woman if I don't love her. Why spend time using/manipulating a girl for anything? There are tons of girls out there who can love, provide you when you give the same thing back. You feel happy this way and there aren't as much negative emotions. You can thus do whatever you want while forgo all the hassles with women.

I personally hate drama. I don't wish them to happen as they are very emotionally draining. I'd rather spend a vacation, read something, learn a new craft than rejecting/playing/manipulating women.

But I also understand Dzemoo's standpoint. It's pretty common for guys who are good with women and has a pick-up / womanizing lifestyle to think this way, as women can get hard to deal with you just want to have new women all the time. Loving a particular woman takes commitment, energy, and moreover, you become attached over the long term. So if you don't love her you can always have new.