12-26-2015, 11:43 PM
(12-21-2015, 08:48 AM)mat422 Wrote:SargeMaximus Wrote:Yeah, could be self-esteem I dunno. I still fall back into that pattern every now and again, I found it's simply where you're putting your focus. If you focus on what you have in common, then you can change that trend very quickly.
I'll have to work on that. Most of my life has been spent feeling isolated and different, so my default pattern of thinking is definitely the completely opposite of that.
Well you know what they say, if what you're doing doesn't work, do the opposite.
(12-21-2015, 08:48 AM)mat422 Wrote:SargeMaximus Wrote:AM 6 helps with this... a LOT. It actually drove me nuts when it first started forcing me to be present. Because I work in construction, it was literally like "pay attention, or suffer some debilitating accident". Not fun to fumble through, but incredible hard to get out of once you're there.
Have you read power of now by any chance? That book helps, but only to a point. I think Tolle actually missed the mark a little, but it's a good starting point.
Ah, I haven't run AM 5 in close to 3 years now. Been focused on EHPRA. But I remember when I ran it a few years ago I felt a lot more centered.
Yeah I've read Power of Now. A bit too wordy for my taste and a bit too focused on ego and "thinking is the enemy" type of vibe to it. Actually put me more into my head. I've actually been having more luck with this new book I've been reading. Kinslow System. Seems gimmicky and new agey, and oozes of that sleazy marketing sales pitch. But all in all it's pretty direct and to the point with some really good techniques on quieting the mind and healing emotions. I've pretty much stopped reading any of those self help books, a lot of them just seem to serve as mental masturbation.
I remember, the best counselor I've ever had (and I've had coming on 10 now), told me that "emotions are information". Which is to say, that emotions aren't good or bad in themselves, but they are communicating something to us. And that's all they do.
(12-21-2015, 08:48 AM)mat422 Wrote:SargeMaximus Wrote:Yeah I can definitely agree with you there. Sometimes reality DOES seem to change (sometimes drastically) but the core basis (I think) never does. I'm still unsure what the core basis of reality is, but some examples would be:
- Gravity
- Light
- The nature of women
Stuff like that seems never to change. I have theorized that it is because nature is feminine, which is why women are so unchanging in what they are attracted to, but I could be wrong.
There are definitely pillars to reality, that's for sure. But I always find it interesting how as humans, we're only perceiving one piece of reality. I think most people would define reality as what they can see, but that's just the brain decoding outside information. Who knows what else is out there that we can't sense or measure. It definitely makes me view reality as less concrete and more malleable or flexible.
It is definitely flexible. I've done enough social expiriments to say that you can change people's reactions to you, the kinds of conversations you get in all kinds of stuff. But fundamentally, there are, indeed, a few things that remain the same.
(12-21-2015, 08:48 AM)mat422 Wrote:SargeMaximus Wrote:Hmm, I don't know. I didn't even talk to him yesterday tbh. He didn't talk to me either, and we sat beside each other for a few hours while I played video games lol.
I felt like maybe it was because he has a girlfriend. It was a powerful, almost condescending vibe. I felt I was a little "off" yesterday in terms of being solid and confident.
Definitely weird. Wouldn't surprise me though. Some guys have so much validation caught up in having a gf when they finally get one they parade her around like a trophy.
Well he doesn't parade her around (I don't even know her name or anything, he doesn't talk about her), but there's this conceited almost "hiding away" thing going on.
(12-21-2015, 08:48 AM)mat422 Wrote:SargeMaximus Wrote:Oh ok, yeah that's not what I meant. I definitely don't advocate accepting someone's evil behavior. at the same time, morality IS subjective in a lot of ways, but once you get aligned with life's "force" (?) then you realize some behavior is detrimental to life, both yours and other's. It's a major topic, but a little besides the point.
The point I was trying to make was that everyone is the same, and the way to cure evil is not to wage war on it, but to bring those people who commit it into the light of awareness of the unity I spoke of. I believe that "evil" is committed from the mentality driven mostly by ego, the false self that does not realize it is a cell in the body of the universe.
And you're welcome, I've enjoyed it.
Cool, definitely on the same page then. Hopefully more people come to this awareness. I think it's happening already, there's been a shift. Nothing major, but talking to people older than me a lot of them say that young adults these days are more aware or in tune to themselves than their generation. I think that's the first step anyway. Before people can realize we're all connected, they have to clear away what society has told them they are.
I kind of agree, but, imo, trying to clear away what society has told us we are, is like trying to kill the boogeyman that lives in your closet. If you won't move on with your life until you're SURE you've killed it, then you will never move on because there is no boogeyman, and so you'll never have proof of killing it, and will perpetually be fighting against shadows and imaginary beasts.