The Start of A Sexual Journey: Prologue To AM6

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I approached a girl that I had talked to before on campus but didn't exchange numbers with. I talked with her today and I asked if she wanted to hang out. She hesitated. Then I said "you don't have to if you don't want to". Then she made it clear that she has a bf but she is down to hang out in a group.

First mistake was "wanted to hang out," this masks your intent. Be more direct, like "have a drink" or something more definitive than "hang out." Second mistake was "you don't have to if you don't want to." You sensed her hesitation and you backed down from continuing as if she was actually open. The bf may indeed exist, but you gave her reason to make an excuse, as the hesitation could easily have been her testing you. This wasn't that bad, but you definitely made mistakes here.

Later, I saw this ridiculously hot girl across the street heading in the opposite direction. I crossed the street and started trying to catch up (I naturally walk slower than most people so that was a challenge). I finally do when we're at the garage and walking up the stairs. I just say that I like her hair and she says thank you. Then I ask her what her name is and I told her mine. She just said nice to meet you. And the whole time she kept on walking without stopping. And it almost seemed like she sped up going to her car, I just acted like I was going to my car in another part of the garage. I felt nervous. And afterwards I straight up felt embarassed, ashamed, frustrated, and angry. I just want to **** hot girls!!! God!

You essentially had stalker-lite behavior here. She kept walking without stopping, which should mean she wasn't receptive to what you were offering, which was "I like your hair" (which could be interpreted differently depending on how you said it). If you feel she sped up towards her car you should have also picked up on that as a "no," since she probably also picked up on the fact that you felt nervous and then embarrassed, ashamed, etc. This was straight up horrible, and you probably need to work on being congruent (aka DON'T fake confidence that isn't there).