Develop an aura of sexiness

[Shannon]

I have done a lot of social experiments on this, and what I find is that when a woman likes me, she: [ ... ]

Not to hijack, but my one-itis did all of these to me and when I called her out on her signals she insisted she wasn't interested in me. What should I have done from then, and what would allow women to be more direct about their feelings instead of pretending for the sake of plausible deniability?

You have to learn when the signals mean she's being polite, when she likes you as a friend, when she's trying to get a better tip, and when she's interested, but feels like she has to deny it because you're a clueless male.

Just because a woman smiles at you doesn't mean she wants to ride you. It means she is smiling at you, and that could mean a number of things.

You must learn how to read faces. There are a dozen types of smile with a dozen meanings and some of them are genuine and some not. You need to know what her smile is communicating, and whether or not she's trying to mislead with it. For example, a server smiling because she is expected to by her boss, when she really doesn't like you because you smell bad, etc.

You have to take what signals you get in terms of a lot of variables. What is she doing? Is she consistent? What is her timing? How is her delivery? Is she in a position to be able to express herself genuinely? Would you know it if she was not? How many different types of signals is she giving, and are they all aiming at the same message? I never think a woman is interested until I see at least three different signals that I can say are all pointing to that, and they are all genuine and make sense for the situation. Servers frequently will flirt for better tips, for example, and may have zero interest otherwise.

I recently had a server give me every possible signal of interest shy of getting herself arrested, including giving me her phone number without being asked for it and verbally saying, "Please call me! I'm off the next two days." When I went to communicate the next day... she blew me off. That's not the first time in the last two weeks that sort of thing has happened. So you have to consider... how old is she? How attractive? Is she used to being allowed to flake and be a brat, and get away with it? I have a friend who tells me, "I love being a brat to guys." They let her, because she has a very attractive face and body. I don't, which is why she tells me the truth about why she does what she does.

But also, if you "call her out" she may be too sensitive, shy or in a bad position in terms of admitting her interest. Remember that for her to act like society expects you to would get her trashed by everyone around her and a reputation for being less than quality. She may have been signalling you with genuine interest, and you blew it by basically saying, "Oh yeah? Prove it." in a place, circumstance or in front of people she could not allow to consider her a sloot. Probably even including YOU. So when you go about disambiguating her signals, you have to do so in a way that works for her to be able to respond appropriately, too.

t's not easy being a guy trying to figure all this out. Just remember that no matter what, there's always more where she came from, and don't put much stock in any one woman unless you've actually established some sort of real relationship with her. In other words, don't be needy or desperate. There's plenty of fish in the sea.