08-17-2015, 03:12 AM
(08-15-2015, 08:55 PM)eternitys_child Wrote: Updated addon to negative: I got called creepy today by one of the girls that I just met today. I'm super resentful because one of my best friends is awesome with the ladies, he's always got them giving him IOI's, and he seems to be super comfortable with himself and women, but I REALLY don't know what the **** it is with me! I wish I knew so I could ***** improve myself, it's really discouraging with new girls being intimidated by me. Girls who've known OF me for a while seem extra comfortable with me, but not with new girls. Is it because of the way I look? I got facial hair and I'm indian, so do the girls think I'm a terrorist?! do white girls just hate indian men? I try to be myself around these girls but what the **** man, it's super discouraging. Situations like this make me feel that my negative self talk exists for a REASON, and that's from EXPERIENCE rather than false expectations...
i'm extra discouraged right now, but i know I'll look back on this in a few months and laugh at it, but right now it's the biggest deal in the world to me and it's pissing me off to no end.
Women like to press men's buttons to see how we react, and to search for insecurities. If they're amused by our reactions, and can't poke out any insecurity, then they f**k us. (If we show absolutely no insecurities whatsoever though then they'll think somethings up and that we're hiding something and that's not a good thing, you just need to know the balance)
It's as simple as that really as long as they are having fun being around you. If you're insecure about being Indian then the women will notice. They'll never stop poking our buttons trying to find insecurities or trying to see if we react in unfavorable ways. They are extremely efficient at weeding out guys that are "unworthy" of the tang.
It has nothing to do with you being Indian. It's like some white guy that's having trouble being like "what, white girls only like black guys or something? fu*k..."
Women are funny.
When a girl calls me a creep I just say something to make them laugh like "I should make a pull string doll named (her name) and when you pull it it's just like "you're a creep!"
Then they laugh and say more stupid bullsh*t to me, but then there's also girls where there's no stupid sh*t just minor little things here and there and those are usually the girls I have better connections with, and since there's a better connection they don't put me through as much sh*t because they already like me. Other girls are testing to see how you react you cannot take it personal or you will literally hate yourself
