(08-16-2015, 04:38 PM)AJK Wrote: I'd like to comment as I've done AM5-..-SM3-AM6-SM3- now AM6 Stage 1.
The question is not so much experience, but driving mechanism to even run SM. To be honest, I think we go for SM due to some latent need for validation through sex. That need goes away with more AM runs as one achieves a strong internal locus of needs (i.e. we no longer need external validation from women).
Once one has done sufficient AM runs, the desire for external validation disappears. I feel I wasted six months during the second run as it was clear that I no longer wanted external validation, all the while becoming more sexual. Hey, its cool and all, but I would rather have done another pass of AM6 than SM3. Then after this run, I could focus on WM entirely.
My view at this time is get your own shit together before involving other people.
Sex is pleasurable and fun, but also it's a basic need (passing on genes). It's not like food, water, sleep and shelter, but I'd say it's next on the list. When a guy can't get laid regularly I think his self esteem and overall contentment with life takes a hit, no matter how much we try not to look for external validation. I know for me, when I'm having sex at least every 1-4 weeks max, my life overall is of a higher quality. My year long dry spell was a downward spiral into low self-esteem and depression, that I didn't even realise I had until I started getting laid again, and it had nothing to do with validation, but could have been more related to brain chemicals. For that reason I think SM is just as important and valuable as AM to a guy who isn't in control of his sex life. Desire for sex is about more than just wanting validation it's a primal desire. I think desire for validation if anything gets in the way, like when a guy ends up in the friend zone because he wants approval more than sex.
It's one of those things I don't think guys realise they're lacking until they have it. Guys can delude themselves when they say "I don't need women" but I think it's just a cop-out, and they're probably wanking it to porn anyway
Turning super saiyan.
