05-29-2015, 08:14 PM
(05-29-2015, 07:27 PM)Shannon Wrote: I have not read that book yet. But I can tell you that never arguing, even if the other person is wrong, is not just beta, it is potentially very manipulative. You're trying to manipulate them to get what you want, which in that case is an opportunity to influence them into doing what you want, now or in the future.
Calling someone out is saying, "Hey, I don't care if you like me, but these are the boundaries, and you WILL have to deal with these boundaries." It's forthright and honest. It will not always get you love or friends, but it will usually get you what you need, and frequently, respect. Even from adversaries.
Yes I'm starting to sense this. Especially in sales. My own "problem" is that my default behavior is very edgy and few (if any) can stand me. I even open myself up to danger with my disrespect or careless behavior/attitudes, so I'm trying to repair that area of myself, without becoming full beta.
Recently, while I've benefited from some of the principles in that book, the trade off has been respect and presence.
Any suggestions on how to walk the line between being respectful of others and having self-respect? It seems that most of my life has been a battle between the two.
