Question for Shannon About AM/SM

[SargeMaximus]

I completely understand where you are right now, because I myself were at the same place. I used to blame my circumstances, life, my mom and dad. It was EASIER this way because then I can keep playing the victim role and not take control of things. It's easier to blame others than own up for your life and take control of it. I had gotten comfortable living in misery and a victim role because it was easier. Forgiving the past and circumstances, people and letting go takes effort and work. Until you do you are never free or happy.

I'm not blaming them for my circumstances. No where have I blamed anyone. Check the thread, quote me if I'm lying. I'm calling you guys out from now on if you HAVE to be involved.

Bro you've been asking Shannon to clear things up for you and he's given you a lot of great insight referring to his personal experiences and how he's been through a similar state of mind in life. The reason you aren't understanding it is because you aren't REALLY trying to understand it, REALLY trying to look deep into what Shannon has shared; what you are doing is finding something out of context to disagree with what Shannon is saying so that you can continue to allow the hatred, neediness and anger towards women and circumstances in your life to perpetuate. You need to realize that subconsciously you have a lot of resistance to letting your hatred, anger and past go. You think you want to consciously let all of it go but the moment you are presented with a solution you let your subconscious patterns and resistance come up to retaliate against what is being said; you allow your old subconscious programming to defend itself.

You can't say I'm not really trying to understand this. To say that is to say you can read my thoughts... can you read my thoughts? No? Didn't think so.

I am very grateful to Shannon for sharing his experiences, he has, in fact, made quite an effort here where in the past he has just lectured. I'm trying to understand it, but I cannot (and will not) just accept something when evidence exists to support the opposite. Fact and Truth do not need convincing, they are SELF-EVIDENT. Where we are now is the realm of opinions and opposing points of view. Thus, I am asking for clarification so I can understand. But if Shannon's points do not hold up to scrutiny, I will not abandon them just because he said so. I think this is a very WISE policy to have my friend.

If you didn't let your subconscious programming jump the gun, you'd realize that Shannon was referring to emotional needs that you are trying to satisfy by seeking it externally.

Shannon explicitly included SEX in his argument. Sex is NOT an emotion.

I used to do the same, I'd hook up with women then get a huge ego boost. Yes it gives a temporary high and satisfaction, ego gratification but it's very superficial and meaningless.

I'm still a virgin, what do you mean "I used to do the same"?

I used to be angry towards women, then I asked myself WHY am I having sex with them then? Then I realized how I was just trying to cover my emotional wounds and that void that was left because of what I went through in life by having meaningless sex, drinking alcohol and engaging in narcissistic activities and behaviors.

I don't drink either lol. Who are you talking to? Me or yourself?

You have anger and hatred towards women that was the result of your mother, or to put it more accurately the representation or perception you have of your mother. Yes s**t happened, she did this, she was this, she said this and then this happened, that happened and now your emotional state is a result of that. The question is do you want to change this? Then let go of the hatred and the anger, because you aren't being fair to YOURSELF by hanging on to all that. Don't you love YOURSELF?

I will gladly if you can tell me HOW to do that... can you?

The lack of attention, care and love from your mother has made you needy and seek it externally from the outside, specifically through sex and other women. The thing is hatred towards women isn't helping this. You hate and continue to blame circumstances around you and your past with the victim mentality. Don't YOU want to be in control of YOUR life? If yes, then STOP blaming the circumstances and others for it and instead take control of yourself. The more you blame and hate, the more you perpetuate the victim mentality.

You have access to all the great insight people of this forum has share dof their own journeys. You have these amazing subs that are there for you to take advantage of to become the best that you and I both KNOW you CAN be. What you're doing though is trying to block out and deny all that so that you can continue to stay in the comfort of your misery.

No I'm not. I approach women regularly, I'm over a TON of fears by now, actively improving my life in every way, listening to EPRHA 10+ hrs a night, etc etc.
Point is, frankly: You don't know what you're talking about so I must ask why are you here? Are you REALLY trying to help? or just lecture me? Cause if you're REALLY trying to help, you'll tell me HOW to do all this you're talking about and/or share your obviously AMAZING in-depth knowledge of psychology for someone in my position... well? Come on now, let's have it!

The door to your jail cell has been unlocked my friend, you can step out of the cell and become whoever you WANT to be, create the life YOU want to create on your own terms without attachments to your past that you couldn't control, OR you can stay in the unlocked cell afraid to come out and experience the endless possibilities and opportunities.

You know, Tony Robbins says "Whenever you're at a fork in the road, DECIDE who you want to be in THAT moment."

That seems to be all you're saying as well, which is GREAT (honestly) but again, nothing new nor helpful.