Question for Shannon About AM/SM

[Shannon]

The way forward is to stop seeking outside yourself for your needs to be met. Find them within you. Master yourself.

You are so caught up with women, that you cannot see that women have nothing to do with this.

You tell me, oh, but without a woman, I cannot have sex. But you can masturbate.

You tell me, oh, but without women, I won't have love. But until you love yourself, and supply your own needs for love that way, you will never have the love you seek.

You blame your mother for her failures. But she has only done as you asked. She has presented you with a challenge to master yourself, and not need her.

Forget women. Stop seeking outside yourself. The answers you seek are not there, that is why you cannot find them. They are inside you. You need to grow out of blaming others. You need to grow into taking full responsibility for yourself, your beliefs, your choices, actions, circumstances and results instead. You need to grow into being the love you seek from others, because only then will you find it outside yourself. And you need to master yourself concerning sex.

I know how hard this is, because I have done all this. I have been in some very similar shoes. That is why I keep trying to guide you. But it all boils down to self mastery and outgrowing the desire to blame others.

Your hate comes from blaming others when they do not give you what you want. You are as a child trying to punish their parent with anger at them, but the person you hurt most is yourself. Hating another is self destruction. Read that again. THINK about it, meditate on it until you understand that point.

There is a reason why all the greatest teachers through history, and all the wisest souls have taught this exact same thing.

Why do women love me? Because I am loving. I fill myself with, and express to them, love, kindness, generosity, gratitude and appreciation. I am considerate of them. I learned to understand them, empathize with them, know what they need. Do you want a woman to love you? Love yourself. Not in the shallow, negative, egotistical way, but as in being the supplier of all of your own needs for love. Once you master that, you will become so full of love that it will radiate out of you and good women will flock to be with you.

Treat another with love, kindness, generosity and consideration and they will come to love you. That's why my dogs love me and are always amazing people with how obedient they are. That's why women love me. That's why all my friends love me. I supply myself with all the love I want and need, and so I am free to accept love from others without needing it from them.

I can be loving because I am filled with much more love than I need. I can be kind because I understand what it is to be mistreated. I also understand the most key truth of all time, which is that all things are connected. They are all ultimately the same one thing. That means that if I hate you, I am hating myself. This is why hate is self destruction. You and I are connected at some level, and therefore, in some way are both parts of the same whole. When you understand this, you begin to realize that all of the people in the world are part of you. They are not just your brothers and sisters... they are PART OF YOU. Hurting them is hurting yourself.

This is a very profound and simple truth, so profound and simple that very few people ever really understand it. That is true because so few people have achieved sufficient comprehension at any given time. To understand this, you must understand yourself. You must become self aware and you must be able to embrace your emotions, because it is only through the higher emotions that you can really be aware of the unity of all things.

Being hurt emotionally tends to make for someone who avoids and hides from their emotions. They tend to escape into their minds, and this makes them unbalanced and polarizes them. Ultimately, just as everything is part of the same whole, everything is also part of a means to growing. Every challenge you experience, every pain, every betrayal, every failure of others is a way for you to learn something, and grow.

Yes, you have been hurt badly. You can deal with it by hating others or you can accept that "What is, is" and move on. If my driveway is made of concrete and I want to have it made of gold, will me getting mad because it is not made of gold change anything? Aside from filling me with negative energy and damaging me, nothing will change except that my focus on and in and through negativity will generate more negativity, because that is what I am generating, and that is what I will attract. Once I accept "what is" and free myself of the expectations and negativity, I free myself. At that point, I can let go of worrying about what my driveway is made of, or I can start working toward making it in the image I desire. But getting angry does nothing but fill me with negativity and attract more of the same to me.

Accept what is as what is. If you cannot change them, accept that fact. Let go of expectations that contradict the "what is" which is beyond your ability to change. You cannot change others, only yourself. So change yourself from expecting others to fulfill your needs and expectations to fulfilling your own needs and letting go of your expectations. Demanding that a rock become a tree will only make a difference once you have the ability to turn a rock into a tree. Until then all you're doing is fighting with a rock, and losing.

If your mother is what she is, and you cannot change her, then accept that fact and stop trying to change her. Stop trying to expect things from her. Turn to yourself for what you wanted from her. You can only change yourself.

Ultimately, you can spend forever in mental masturbation on this. The answer is to stop looking outside you for what can only come from within. Master yourself. Outgrow your blame and hate and expectations. Accept what is, and work with it instead of fighting it. You will always lose when you insist that your way is the only way, when you have no control over what you are dealing with.

The answer is here. If you have not seen it, or understood it, read this again and again until you do. I can say no more on this because there is nothing else to say. The rest is up to you.