Question for Shannon About AM/SM

[TheRealJustin]

Yea I understand not wanting to socialize, but I actually want a really cool group of guy friends, like I envy what Tyler Durden has, I think it would be sweet to have a really cool close group of friends male and female, and just go out and have fun and meet hotties to hook up with and have a great time with great people.

You're right too I do need to just at least say hi at bare minimum and just let my comfort zone expand. It's crazy how if I'm wasted I can talk to anybody no problem, but sober I'm like what you were saying, I feel like she's going to whip out her phone and call the cops and I'll go to prison, or some guy is going to sucker punch me or some sh*t, like I just get a feeling that it's a bad idea, and then wasted I'm completely different.

Well at least you've experienced the reality: nothing happens. Just remind yourself of that when you're sober. The cops don't get lazy and drunk just because you do.

Like one time we pulled up in the gas station and this super dime piece was in line and I was just like 'damn that girls fine, watch this' to my friends and I go in, go straight up to her and ask her if she wants to be my girlfriend, and then my friend was like 'no be my girlfriend' and I was like 'okay you have two guys that want you, do you want to be my girlfriend or his?' and she was like 'yours, I've never had someone come up to me like that and be so direct' and I told her to give me her number she said her phone was in her car so I walked her to her car, made out with her, had her call my phone, made out with her more, and then she went home. Next day she called me in the afternoon asked why I never called her, hung up on me, and never talked to me again, but that was still an awesome night I just wish I had balls and confidence like that without being absolutely shit faced because I'm nothing like that sober, I would never do that sober.

You could. You just have to find a different medium. Meditation, yoga, whatever. Maybe you just need to learn self-defense? Find out why you're afraid and eliminate those realities.

But definitely start by saying hi. If they DO slap you or call the cops because you said hi, I'm pretty sure you could sue them for wrongful imprisonment.

While I was outside with her, my friend told me the cashier at the register was saying I was going to get arrested, and then was just dumbfounded when he saw me making out with her. And, I'm really not a guy that looks like would be making out with a girl as hot as she was. That's another reason when I'm sober I just never really say anything to girls because I'm just insecure and think they won't be attracted to me because like I said, I have a gut and big man tits, but when I'm drunk, I don't even think about that, I'm just like 'what would Tyler do' or 'what would Vitaly do'

Lol, I saw a guy good with women with man tits. And Johnny Soporno (CHECK HIM OUT!!) is a balding/fat mothah f*ckah.

And yea, I thought you would resonate well with Julien, that guy might actually turn you into a pretty big pimp pretty fast if you don't have a problem approaching. I think you would do really well if you just watch his videos and Tylers videos all day, they truly give out some insane amounts of value absolutely free. I actually find their youtube channels to be more helpful than their expensive as* products. He picked up on this stuff so fast because of who he was hanging out with 24/7, like he was with a pick up God 24/7 and he's better looking than him, so it probably just all became super real to him super fast.

Yeah maybe, we'll see. I can approach but it literally dies with the small talk. I don't know how else to do it, but I'ma start approaching 3 girls a day again starting today (accountability alert! ) just so I can start figuring out WHAT the f*ck is going wrong.

By the way, I'm watching the vampire diaries right now, and aside from the cute girls, I think it's a pretty lame show. Seems like it's marketed to girls tbh. I'm no expert on dating dynamics at all, but that's definitely the vibe I'm getting from it. Or it may just be more self-loathing. That show makes me angry at myself for not approaching already today but I'm feeling pretty bad still. EPRHA is killing me.

The Vampire Diaries is 100% made for women, but I love it, and all the subtleties like it almost seems like it's based off of pickup how they can 'compel' people and how they act and everything, it's almost like alpha pua's with a deep understanding of NLP and covert hypnosis. That show is nuts.

When I'm drunk too though, I'm a lot more out going and just having a blast, and I have a silver tongue, and I just know whoever I talk to is going to have a blast talking to me. When I'm sober it's not like that. Even when I'm introduced to a girl through a friend it's like I'm just calm and build attraction slowly and subtly, and I feel like if I were to approach a stranger in a mall or something I wouldn't really know what to say or anything and I'd come in with low boring energy, and if I'm juiced it's just like I don't even know what I'm saying I'm just rambling and laughing and they're laughing and I'm high energy having a blast fun to be around, in control, confident, it's just different. And it's not everytime I drink I just become like that, it's only when I'm drinking AND I'm having a super fun night then I turn into a energy ball of fun.

I do need to start working on that though because I really don't want to drink anymore, at least not often at all, like maybe once every blue moon. I feel like if I had a better life it would be more automatic, and I would have that fee good emotion with high energy naturally. That's part of the reason I started having a super juice every morning, and started Ultra Success and stopped biabws because I just need to have a better life so I feel better, health and wealth, but that's also no reason to not start now.

I've never heard of Johnny Soporno, thanks for mentioning him. I've always wanted a bigger guy to learn from, it's harder seeing a bunch of rich good looking guys tell me stuff when they really don't know what it's like to be me, and that makes it harder to try things too because I'm like, yea this works for him, but I'm not as good looking as him, I just think too much when I'm sober. I do have Positive Thinking running also, I wonder if those two programs will help me in this area, they're really general so it will be interesting to see what happens with them.

I know you aren't getting results with AM or SM, but maybe BIABWS would be good for you, plus it's cheap. The only affirmations directed at straight males specifically are just two affirmations to stop guys from hitting on you or becoming attracted to you, but the rest of the affirmations seem like they'd work fine even if you're bi. Once I'm on my feet financially, I'm probably going to run that program for a few years straight.

Anyways, I'm glad we had this talk, it got my mind going back in a direction I was straying away from.