Question for Shannon About AM/SM

[TheRealJustin]

I've had sex sober a lot of times but never in a bad ass way where I just meet some girl at a grocery store or something like that and then leave with her. It's always girls I meet through friends and we just click, or with girls I meet online. I'm no where near the level of these coaches, even when I'm wasted and in funny happy outgoing mode, still I usually don't get laid but get a lot of attention, and make out and have a really fun night, but also have to deal with a lot of angry guys, pretty much every single guy that has the balls to say something will come and try to rain on my parade, but when I'm with my friends it never bothers me because my friends could rock someone badly. When I get laid from a bar it's almost exclusively when I go alone and is with a girl who is also alone, and is not the best looking girl. The hottest girls I get are from meetme . com. If I lived in a bigger city with more people and more women it would probably be a little more comfortable practicing cold approach pickup, but at this point in life it's not something I ever do. If I had a good friend that wanted to go out and practice cold approach pickup though I would.

Well, hit me up if you're ever in canada lol.

Still though, I think most of it is a progression. You can't go 0-60 overnight. Takes time, and thousands of rejections and bad experiences sadly lol.

I myself am going to start getting back out there cause no progress is made sitting at home. And I've been watching some of Julien's stuff. The guy seems pretty solid. I'm not sure how he got so internally solid, I'll have to look up his background.

It would be really nice to be able to pull off some of this sh*t I see guys doing, maybe I should just balls up and at least start saying hi and introducing myself when I see a hottie, but in all honesty I probably won't lol.

Really? Dude, you gotta!

I remember when I first started, I literally thought that I would be arrested, beaten up, or at least slapped and yelled at by the woman for asking her for the TIME!

Once I got over that, it was another hurdle, and so on. Just take it baby steps. Identify the least you can do, then push it a little bit. Keep doing that till it's all part of your comfort zone.

Right now my trouble is conversation/small talk. Girls literally smile HUGE when I approach them most the time now, even blush sometimes, but when I start small talk, it dies FAST and I can literally see it. So I'm not sure WHAT it is, but I do know WHERE it is.

I don't really think you're missing anything if you have the balls to do cold approach, that's really all you probably need and if you keep doing it you'll just get better at it. Where I live there's not really anywhere that just has a ton of girls besides the mall, but I imagine having to spend like 5 hours talking to every girl I see just to get one where something might happen so I just never even try.

Balls isn't worth a whole lot in my experience. You gotta know what to do. It's like if you had the balls to approach a woman who didn't speak english, it just wouldn't work. No matter what. You gotta communicate for whatever reason lol, but it's true.

As for the mall, just go. I'm still struggling with needing an "excuse" to go to the mall other than hitting on women, but you know what? I'm getting there. I haven't bought anything from a mall unless I absolutely needed it (and was going to get it anyways) for some time now. I've even told girls I'm hitting on, after they're like "so what are you doing?" I'm like "just hangin out, walking around, and talking to any cute girls I may come across." lol. What's the big deal?

I just get girls online, at bars, or through friends, or at parties. All my friends too, none of them would be a wingman, if anything they will co*k block and talk me down and try to steal the girls attention away from me. Total weasels, but I understand that they don't know or study anything I know and study/have studied so it doesn't bother me, but it does make me wish I had a friend to go out and practice with and meet a lot of girls, and hot girls know a lot of other hot girls, and hot girls hang with cool guys, so it would just make your sex life and social life just raise and be awesome.

Yeah I hear ya. Socializing is the one part I'm not ok with yet. It turns me off, quite literally.

I can approach women, be pretty direct, touch them, check them out without flinching even when I've done so by leaving their gaze, then look back in their eyes and smirk. It's all easy, but socializing? GAH! lol, kill me now.

Yea I understand not wanting to socialize, but I actually want a really cool group of guy friends, like I envy what Tyler Durden has, I think it would be sweet to have a really cool close group of friends male and female, and just go out and have fun and meet hotties to hook up with and have a great time with great people.

You're right too I do need to just at least say hi at bare minimum and just let my comfort zone expand. It's crazy how if I'm wasted I can talk to anybody no problem, but sober I'm like what you were saying, I feel like she's going to whip out her phone and call the cops and I'll go to prison, or some guy is going to sucker punch me or some sh*t, like I just get a feeling that it's a bad idea, and then wasted I'm completely different. Like one time we pulled up in the gas station and this super dime piece was in line and I was just like 'damn that girls fine, watch this' to my friends and I go in, go straight up to her and ask her if she wants to be my girlfriend, and then my friend was like 'no be my girlfriend' and I was like 'okay you have two guys that want you, do you want to be my girlfriend or his?' and she was like 'yours, I've never had someone come up to me like that and be so direct' and I told her to give me her number she said her phone was in her car so I walked her to her car, made out with her, had her call my phone, made out with her more, and then she went home. Next day she called me in the afternoon asked why I never called her, hung up on me, and never talked to me again, but that was still an awesome night I just wish I had balls and confidence like that without being absolutely shit faced because I'm nothing like that sober, I would never do that sober. While I was outside with her, my friend told me the cashier at the register was saying I was going to get arrested, and then was just dumbfounded when he saw me making out with her. And, I'm really not a guy that looks like would be making out with a girl as hot as she was. That's another reason when I'm sober I just never really say anything to girls because I'm just insecure and think they won't be attracted to me because like I said, I have a gut and big man tits, but when I'm drunk, I don't even think about that, I'm just like 'what would Tyler do' or 'what would Vitaly do'

And yea, I thought you would resonate well with Julien, that guy might actually turn you into a pretty big pimp pretty fast if you don't have a problem approaching. I think you would do really well if you just watch his videos and Tylers videos all day, they truly give out some insane amounts of value absolutely free. I actually find their youtube channels to be more helpful than their expensive as* products. He picked up on this stuff so fast because of who he was hanging out with 24/7, like he was with a pick up God 24/7 and he's better looking than him, so it probably just all became super real to him super fast.