04-13-2015, 12:34 PM
(04-13-2015, 05:11 AM)SargeMaximus Wrote:(04-13-2015, 04:51 AM)brightike Wrote: Thanks SargeMaximus, I actually almost exclusively approach during the day. Have for the past two years. Coffee shops, on transit, grocery stores I don't care. Still get anxiety like it's my first time a lot.
I have been in relationships for most of my life up until 3 years ago. I always a girl in the wings. I apparently (I say this because I don't completely see it) have a skewed reality when it comes to sex, women and me. My challenges before were Neediness, not many boundaries, putting girls on pedestals. Typical crap.
You're welcome.
You mention having a skewed reality yet you're doing quite well despite it. Any idea what it is you ARE doing or NOT doing that has made the difference?
I myself have no neediness, nor do I put girls on pedestals, but I can see I have no boundaries. How does that factor into women? (I'm trying to identify my sticking points because right now I don't see any, but they are there.)
K Just getting a bit of idea of where you are reading your EPRHA journal. I'll chime in on the handling a girl that calls you a player. I sarcastically admit it and exaggerate the shit out of it like:
Her : so you're a bit of a player huh?
Me: Totally I actually have a harem.. 60-70 girls... Hard to keep up with, but they're happy.
Her : (usually realizing that she was kind of being a little hostile) No you don't, you're lying.
Me: No really.. I swear.. Just looking for some additions
In reality Sarge I don't believe I play. I believe that I'm not in the place for a relationship right now and I'm living my life and IF I meet people on the way that I want to share some amazing experiences with then great.. If not great, I'll entertain myself.
On a side note boundaries show that you won't just take anyone. I don't know what SM is like yet, but I flat out refuse to have sex with just anyone. Mess around..... Maybe.. Intercourse.. NOPE. I have experienced that in a girls eyes that if you will give it up easy to her then.. You probably will with anyone. It also let's her know that you care about yourself enough to be of value. Maybe someone else can be more articulate with that, but that's what I think.
With that said.. You can escalate quickly and get sex if you want, but usually most people are looking for a few partners that they can have a lot of sex with. When lots of sex is your goal.. Prolonging a couple days (max 2 weeks) seems to be the best in my opinion.
