03-17-2015, 06:33 PM
(03-15-2015, 02:45 AM)Ace Wrote:(03-14-2015, 04:30 PM)Benjamin Wrote: I disagree, somehow there is alot of talk about how being cocky or a bit arrogant isn't confidence and I don't know where it come from. I wonder if it is related to how masculinity is being attacked.No problem man.
I mean at the extreme level yes it can be compensating and there is people who do that and it can come from insecurity.
But at the same time when I am fully confident I am also naturally cocky and it comes out in my interactions. And when that happens it isn't coming from insecurity.
I think that in some cases they actually do go together, and I can't say for sure but i'd point the finger at something to do with political correctness causing so much information out there telling us this isn't true.
I think confidence is your belief in your abilities whereas arrogance is confidence gained by putting others down. You can be cocky in a funny way (heck, people love it). But being cocky by putting others down is arrogance.
I have to chime in here. I, personally, come across as arrogant many times, but I don't put others down. I DO tell them how they could improve their lives, OR I tell my strong points, but never belittle people simply to raise myself up.
I think that overconfidence and arrogance go hand in hand, the more confident you are, the more intimidated and inferior those around you will feel.
The worst part is that we confident types are shamed into believing that it's wrong of us to be so confident, so we spend much of our lives trying to keep ourselves down and "humble" just so those around us can feel better about themselves. Emotional altruism in a way.
