Stage 2, Day 14,
Today was a pretty good day. I pretty much observed people all day, doing their job right. But I did pMemory, hit the gym crazy hard. So I'm spent, but in a good way. Doing singing warmup now. Keeping a little groove going on that; my singing slump seems to have gone away and shows great promise at being spectacular come summer! I truly mean that; my voice went beyond surprising me summer 2014, since I was very consistent and nearly obsessive about busking.
I've had two small insights that have led to big shifts:
1) Improve your body language instantly: Lift your chest up by 1 INCH. That's it. Your neck, your shoulders, your hips, your legs, and ultimately your posture, will take care of themselves if you stick to this change for more than 10 seconds.
I've noticed my coworkers (literally all of them female) responded to it in a positive. I wouldn't say it's sexual, just extra eye contact when we're conversing.
My only hangup is that I'm left in a position where I'm looking down on people. My mind is fighting that, as it doesn't like the idea of being above others. However, being 6 foot 2 inches, I'm literally above others most of the time, so I will be gradually accepting this reality and applying this shift as much as possible.
In the mirror, this position makes the difference between 'man who has his act together' and 'grown up boy with hoodie'.
2) Very hot women are outliers of their gender (outside the statistical norm); To fraternize with very hot women, become an outlier.
I got this off of a dating program; it cleared so many things up right away.
Look up and learn about standard distribution curves; you'll basically get an image of a bell curve. Average people fall within the mean (average). Very hot women are to the very right of the bell curve, probably 2.5 to 3 standard deviations from the mean. Of course, it's subjective; some people consider very hot women as being 1+ SD to the right. My standards are a bit higher as for what makes for 'very hot'.
These women, because they're in demand, won't consider spending as much (if any) time with those who aren't also outliers, in the sense that these have some developed quality that is far outside of ordinary. This could a talent, charisma, humor, social skills, masculinity (for dating), and yes, looks, height, and money.
The best part about being a man is that YOU GET TO PICK in which areas you want to be developed. Like mentioned before, you don't HAVE to be rich to date models, but it helps. You don't HAVE to be good looking either. But every single quality you have that is above average will gradually edge you to the right of a standard distribution curve and make you an outlier in her eyes. You can go gung-ho on a couple of qualities, or strive for a more balanced improvement in all areas.
But appearance is important; I'm starting to get impatient with my increasingly-crap looking casual wear, albeit I'm grateful for their role in my life, and that I had the money to afford them and so on.
Also, I've had a few opportunities to meet and chat with women, but I frankly don't really want to. Is this weird? In October-November (on SM3), I couldn't stop thinking about it. I had sex on Monday, and it's almost Friday, and I haven't given much thought to women besides a few right swipes on Tinder and the insights from today.
Will keep you posted.
Today was a pretty good day. I pretty much observed people all day, doing their job right. But I did pMemory, hit the gym crazy hard. So I'm spent, but in a good way. Doing singing warmup now. Keeping a little groove going on that; my singing slump seems to have gone away and shows great promise at being spectacular come summer! I truly mean that; my voice went beyond surprising me summer 2014, since I was very consistent and nearly obsessive about busking.
I've had two small insights that have led to big shifts:
1) Improve your body language instantly: Lift your chest up by 1 INCH. That's it. Your neck, your shoulders, your hips, your legs, and ultimately your posture, will take care of themselves if you stick to this change for more than 10 seconds.
I've noticed my coworkers (literally all of them female) responded to it in a positive. I wouldn't say it's sexual, just extra eye contact when we're conversing.
My only hangup is that I'm left in a position where I'm looking down on people. My mind is fighting that, as it doesn't like the idea of being above others. However, being 6 foot 2 inches, I'm literally above others most of the time, so I will be gradually accepting this reality and applying this shift as much as possible.
In the mirror, this position makes the difference between 'man who has his act together' and 'grown up boy with hoodie'.
2) Very hot women are outliers of their gender (outside the statistical norm); To fraternize with very hot women, become an outlier.
I got this off of a dating program; it cleared so many things up right away.
Look up and learn about standard distribution curves; you'll basically get an image of a bell curve. Average people fall within the mean (average). Very hot women are to the very right of the bell curve, probably 2.5 to 3 standard deviations from the mean. Of course, it's subjective; some people consider very hot women as being 1+ SD to the right. My standards are a bit higher as for what makes for 'very hot'.
These women, because they're in demand, won't consider spending as much (if any) time with those who aren't also outliers, in the sense that these have some developed quality that is far outside of ordinary. This could a talent, charisma, humor, social skills, masculinity (for dating), and yes, looks, height, and money.
The best part about being a man is that YOU GET TO PICK in which areas you want to be developed. Like mentioned before, you don't HAVE to be rich to date models, but it helps. You don't HAVE to be good looking either. But every single quality you have that is above average will gradually edge you to the right of a standard distribution curve and make you an outlier in her eyes. You can go gung-ho on a couple of qualities, or strive for a more balanced improvement in all areas.
But appearance is important; I'm starting to get impatient with my increasingly-crap looking casual wear, albeit I'm grateful for their role in my life, and that I had the money to afford them and so on.
Also, I've had a few opportunities to meet and chat with women, but I frankly don't really want to. Is this weird? In October-November (on SM3), I couldn't stop thinking about it. I had sex on Monday, and it's almost Friday, and I haven't given much thought to women besides a few right swipes on Tinder and the insights from today.
Will keep you posted.
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